"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Subtle Status Changes on FB

bmp2cpm

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Maybe I'm slow and you all know this, but I'm beginning to realize a tactic of some women who are/were in a relationship on Facebook is not to announce that they are single. But instead, just take off any info about the relationship.

So, if you

1) are in a relationship with a woman, periodically check her relationship status. If info about you changes to no info at all, bail immediately as she is on the lookout for a new man. Your relationship is over. Would be nice if she would tell you, but women don't work that way.

2) have eyes for someone married or in a relationship (probably not recommended) and you see her relationship changes from info about the guy to no info, she's looking and it's time to make your move. If you don't act, someone else will, sad but true.

So to sum up, the relationship is officially over when there is no FB relationship info and the guy gets no notification about it. He finds out months or even years later.

Women are so subtle. They make it an art form on how to be sneaky so us men don't get angry. Unfortunately, their techniques are quite effective. But we can adapt and catch them at their own game.

Be careful out there!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have noticed this as well. A wife of a buddy of mine mysteriously removed her "married" status on FB. He noticed it and told me about it in casual conversation. I told him that's a real red flag and a bigger deal than what it may seem like on the surface at face value. Of course, being blue pill, he thought I was paranoid and reading into it too much.. But obviously it bothered him or he wouldn't have noticed it/mentioned it to me.. Blue pillers are so funny sometimes... OP, what do jaded old guys like us know about this stuff anyway, right? ;)

Good post
 

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Agree, facebook, even moreso than true reality, is what a person wants to appear to be. If you aren't a part of that, it's certainly over in real life.
 
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