"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Read more...

Stupid agreement

ForAllThat

New Member
Joined
Jul 5, 2010
Messages
9
Reaction score
0
Location
Rotterdam, Netherlands
I know this HB(8.5 on my scale) which I know is really coming on to me(thanks to that thread about all those missed come ons). And she a driving test coming up(for her driver's license).

I was stupid enough to make a deal that if she didn't pass the test that I wouldn't talk to her until she passed it. Now I'm really hoping she passes the test. But what if she doesn't... Should I stick to the agreement and wait(and possibly lose her), or just not talk to her for a week or 2. Then decide she's suffered enough?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

scorpio1138

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 31, 2010
Messages
196
Reaction score
2
ha ha, I like that! (8.5 on *my* scale)

figure out some kind of joke to get through this whether she gets it or not.
be playful with it.
 

jophil28

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 18, 2006
Messages
5,216
Reaction score
278
Location
Gold Coast. Aust.
ForAllThat said:
I know this HB(8.5 on my scale) which I know is really coming on to me(thanks to that thread about all those missed come ons). And she a driving test coming up(for her driver's license).

I was stupid enough to make a deal that if she didn't pass the test that I wouldn't talk to her until she passed it. Now I'm really hoping she passes the test. But what if she doesn't... Should I stick to the agreement and wait(and possibly lose her), or just not talk to her for a week or 2. Then decide she's suffered enough?
Unfortunately, if she fails and you "talk" to her because you just can't help yourself you are sending her the message that what you say is not what you really mean.
By saying what you said you have effectively sh1t tested your own credibility.

Be careful about what you say next time because you may just be trapped in your own words this time.

You should have promised her a reward if she passed instead of telling her that you are going to freeze her out if she failed.
 

CarlitosWay

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2009
Messages
830
Reaction score
24
Location
In the damn boonies...of Michigan
ForAllThat said:
I was stupid enough to make a deal that if she didn't pass the test that I wouldn't talk to her until she passed it. Now I'm really hoping she passes the test. But what if she doesn't... Should I stick to the agreement and wait(and possibly lose her), or just not talk to her for a week or 2. Then decide she's suffered enough?
WTF? How old are you? Who does this kind of elementary stuff anymore....:crackup:

You're taking yourself too seriously. I'd tease her about probably failing the test and that it would be better if she never drove anyways being a woman and all. ha There...then forget about that childish agreement.
 

ForAllThat

New Member
Joined
Jul 5, 2010
Messages
9
Reaction score
0
Location
Rotterdam, Netherlands
Haha, I thought so.. I have a tendency to trap myself in my own words somehow -.-'. I did tell her that if she did make it, that I'd reward her.

Thing is, she IS all like, I so wanna succeed at the test now because otherwise you won't talk to me..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

omega05

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 18, 2009
Messages
654
Reaction score
10
Location
chicago
ForAllThat said:
Haha, I thought so.. I have a tendency to trap myself in my own words somehow -.-'. I did tell her that if she did make it, that I'd reward her.

Thing is, she IS all like, I so wanna succeed at the test now because otherwise you won't talk to me..
well if you know she's into you like that then why are you worried whether she passes or fails?
 

ForAllThat

New Member
Joined
Jul 5, 2010
Messages
9
Reaction score
0
Location
Rotterdam, Netherlands
I got myself out of it, by telling it was a joke, and I wouldn't want to make her even sadder by not talking to her. (Because of course.. she obviously failed the test)

It made her extremely happy, and it got me out of my own trap
 

jophil28

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 18, 2006
Messages
5,216
Reaction score
278
Location
Gold Coast. Aust.
Remember - offer rewards to entice women to act in ways that please you BUT only threaten or execute punishment when she acts in ways that disrespect you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

Top