MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
taiyuu_otoko said:old news.
Men are genetically disposed to prefer youth. And in the old days of evolution, a naturall blond was proof of youth, as blond color tended to fade as one aged.
So men that had a natural inclination for blonds passes on more genes, yielding more men who preferred blonds. So even today blonds are preferred, despite all the possible chemical alterations.
Any indication of youth is preferable over an indication of age. Smooth skin, perky breasts, clear eyes, school girl uniforms...
That's kind of harsh!Rescue Mission said:MatureDJ, how many different women have you had sex with in the past year?
You seem to post ALOT of threads that are basically just articles from the internet, and without much comment or opinion from you, which makes it look like you are just trying to look cool in front of an internet forum at the tender age of 44.
Tell me I'm wrong.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I haven't been laid in a few years, as I have been stuck in the USA, with my failing business and resultant bankruptcy.Rescue Mission said:MatureDJ, how many different women have you had sex with in the past year?
You seem to post ALOT of threads that are basically just articles from the internet, and without much comment or opinion from you, which makes it look like you are just trying to look cool in front of an internet forum at the tender age of 44.
Tell me I'm wrong.
Maybe.CuriousGirl said:I think you've got the blonde thing confused with the youth thing here,
Ridley in The Red Queen said:That blond hair has been considered by Europeans more beautiful than brown or black hair has long been noted...Blond hair is a fairly common gene among Europeans. So when a mutation arose in the not-so-distant past, for blondness to last into adulthood but not beyond the early twenties, any men with a genetic preference for blond women would have found themselves marrying only young women, which - in a heavily clothed civilization - others might not have done. They would have left more descendants, and a preference for blond hair would have spread. This would in turn would have increased the spread of the trait itself because it would be an honest indicator of female reproductive value. Hence, gentlemen prefer blonds.
Although demand for aftermarket blondes may be decreasing due to the economy, economists are forcasting.jophil28 said:I also believe that there is a thriving demand in "after market " blondes. Easy installation- just locate one in an upmarket bar, buy her two tequilas and drive her home. She will install herself in your 'beamer' (and your apartment) at no extra cost.
Mr.Positive said:Before installing one, even temporarily, heed this warning...
There's a new scam going around that you install one, and when you get home, you've been hoodwinked. Remember, the carpet must match the drapes for a complete installation!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Mr OP is perhaps referring to the oft seen discrepancy between the woman's hair color and a contrasting hue "down there".MatureDJ said:
I think women do it for the same reason a lot of guys on this forum try to be the bad boy or whatever. They get a confidence boost by trying to be something they're not. Perhaps they think they themselves are not likeable, so they change who they are and hope that will get them some attention from the opposite sex.The problem with this attraction that wealthy gents prefer blondes is not all blondes are created equal for many are dyed blonde and are really brunettes and why do they do it? Is it the youth factor or it's just that they just stand out more being blonde? Remember black women even dye their hair blonde...why?
I've noticed around here a lot of people have chosen to have nice cars, but once they make their car payment they can't afford to have a nice house to go with it. If you drive around the low rent district here in town, there are a lot of nice cars parked in front of shabby houses.Now what is considered wealthy? Someone posted someone driving a BMW if I drive the Z4 totally decked out http://autos.aol.com/cars-BMW-Z4-201...odel pg&flv=1 does this make me wealthy alone or if I have a nice home to go with it a ski boat etc., as well?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.