IMO, the only times I see girls in their early to mid twenties go for guys in their mid thirties and above are in situations where the guy has much higher status than the girl in their environment (e.g. girl dates her boss, actress dates more established actor, yoga enthusiast dates yogi, etc.). When it comes to cold approaches at clubs, older guys have a lot more difficulty.
In certain parts of NYC, the clubs are PACKED with 20-somethings, except for select groups of wealthy 30- and 40-somethings that are hellbent on sabotaging your game with said 20-somethings, under the supposition that their higher income bracket and age entitles them to such girls. They always dress sharp and try to out-alpha their younger rivals by doing things like buying rounds of drinks for all and paying backhanded compliments to the younger guys.
However, no matter how much they name drop hip indie bands, those guys inevitably come off as "try hard" with the girls there because it obviously isn't their "scene" for any other reason but the abundance of younger women.
Now, if these guys picked a locale that cater to a slightly older clientele, I think they'd have no problem scoring the occasional young hot chick that goes there to feel "mature." But college age girls at a dance club generally don't care about how high up in your company you are--they see mid thirties as OLD.
I'm all for getting rid of limiting beliefs, but sometimes I think the stuff about a 40 year old man's desirability with young girls is a gross exaggeration. I certainly don't see it other than in anecdotal evidence.
If you're in your 40's, your time is probably better spent with girls aged 29-35 that you can at least relate to, rather than wasting time with flaky chicks that still read "Highlights" magazine.
Bring on the flames, grandpas!:woo: