"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Stuck!!!

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Okay, here is my current situation and I have been improving lately and really haven't posted but I really need some good advice on this one. I have been flirting with a girl lately, and been getting what I see as a good response.

Now, one of my nosy a$$ so called friends decided to step in. He told this girl that I liked her and all. Well, I guess she has asked a few others if they really think I like her. Now, I see too things. This was a few days back, and she is still talking to me and all like we have been for the last couple of weeks. Do you think she is asking because she is like, oh my thats just freaky or do you think she is really curious if I am interested or not?

I just need some good advice and a little motivation, I am a little down right now and don't know where to turn anymore.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tenzen

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get a # and ask her out, what do u have to lose?
 

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I got her #, already made that move.

My next question, just again for some reassurance to make myself better, how does one suggest going about asking a girl out. For some reason it seems you would want there to be a time and place, and really to me saying "Will you go out with me?" sounds way to much like getting married but "Want to go out?" sounds too elementary. Again, I am just stuck!
 

sam3083

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"Hey, I'm going to the movies, at ________, to see _________. Come with me".

Don't ask her out, tell her out.

Lets really try and get this "tell her out" phrase going.
 

SinJester

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Do you want to ask:

"Can we be girlfriend and boyfriend?"

Or

"Will you come with me at a certain place at this time?"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I am thinking more of the girlfriend way, what do you think? We have already went several places together and that was simple asking.
 

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Take her somewhere, for a walk around a lake or something. Then try a kiss close on her. If she kisses you, say something along the lines of "Go out with me".
 

cobrajoe

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Plec07 said:
Take her somewhere, for a walk around a lake or something. Then try a kiss close on her. If she kisses you, say something along the lines of "Go out with me".
Ooooh, that sounds like a good move.

Only problem I've had with plans like that are the random stuff, roommates around when they shouldn't, inopportune calls, hit in the face by a softball, etc...

I would suggest making a move soon though, a kiss is usually good enough to explain your intents.
 
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