"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Stuck!!!

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Okay, here is my current situation and I have been improving lately and really haven't posted but I really need some good advice on this one. I have been flirting with a girl lately, and been getting what I see as a good response.

Now, one of my nosy a$$ so called friends decided to step in. He told this girl that I liked her and all. Well, I guess she has asked a few others if they really think I like her. Now, I see too things. This was a few days back, and she is still talking to me and all like we have been for the last couple of weeks. Do you think she is asking because she is like, oh my thats just freaky or do you think she is really curious if I am interested or not?

I just need some good advice and a little motivation, I am a little down right now and don't know where to turn anymore.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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get a # and ask her out, what do u have to lose?
 
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I got her #, already made that move.

My next question, just again for some reassurance to make myself better, how does one suggest going about asking a girl out. For some reason it seems you would want there to be a time and place, and really to me saying "Will you go out with me?" sounds way to much like getting married but "Want to go out?" sounds too elementary. Again, I am just stuck!
 
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"Hey, I'm going to the movies, at ________, to see _________. Come with me".

Don't ask her out, tell her out.

Lets really try and get this "tell her out" phrase going.
 
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Do you want to ask:

"Can we be girlfriend and boyfriend?"

Or

"Will you come with me at a certain place at this time?"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I am thinking more of the girlfriend way, what do you think? We have already went several places together and that was simple asking.
 
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Take her somewhere, for a walk around a lake or something. Then try a kiss close on her. If she kisses you, say something along the lines of "Go out with me".
 
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Plec07 said:
Take her somewhere, for a walk around a lake or something. Then try a kiss close on her. If she kisses you, say something along the lines of "Go out with me".
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Ooooh, that sounds like a good move.

Only problem I've had with plans like that are the random stuff, roommates around when they shouldn't, inopportune calls, hit in the face by a softball, etc...

I would suggest making a move soon though, a kiss is usually good enough to explain your intents.
 
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