"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Okay, here is my current situation and I have been improving lately and really haven't posted but I really need some good advice on this one. I have been flirting with a girl lately, and been getting what I see as a good response.

Now, one of my nosy a$$ so called friends decided to step in. He told this girl that I liked her and all. Well, I guess she has asked a few others if they really think I like her. Now, I see too things. This was a few days back, and she is still talking to me and all like we have been for the last couple of weeks. Do you think she is asking because she is like, oh my thats just freaky or do you think she is really curious if I am interested or not?

I just need some good advice and a little motivation, I am a little down right now and don't know where to turn anymore.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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get a # and ask her out, what do u have to lose?
 
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I got her #, already made that move.

My next question, just again for some reassurance to make myself better, how does one suggest going about asking a girl out. For some reason it seems you would want there to be a time and place, and really to me saying "Will you go out with me?" sounds way to much like getting married but "Want to go out?" sounds too elementary. Again, I am just stuck!
 
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"Hey, I'm going to the movies, at ________, to see _________. Come with me".

Don't ask her out, tell her out.

Lets really try and get this "tell her out" phrase going.
 
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Do you want to ask:

"Can we be girlfriend and boyfriend?"

Or

"Will you come with me at a certain place at this time?"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I am thinking more of the girlfriend way, what do you think? We have already went several places together and that was simple asking.
 
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Take her somewhere, for a walk around a lake or something. Then try a kiss close on her. If she kisses you, say something along the lines of "Go out with me".
 
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Plec07 said:
Take her somewhere, for a walk around a lake or something. Then try a kiss close on her. If she kisses you, say something along the lines of "Go out with me".
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Ooooh, that sounds like a good move.

Only problem I've had with plans like that are the random stuff, roommates around when they shouldn't, inopportune calls, hit in the face by a softball, etc...

I would suggest making a move soon though, a kiss is usually good enough to explain your intents.
 
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