"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Okay, here is my current situation and I have been improving lately and really haven't posted but I really need some good advice on this one. I have been flirting with a girl lately, and been getting what I see as a good response.

Now, one of my nosy a$$ so called friends decided to step in. He told this girl that I liked her and all. Well, I guess she has asked a few others if they really think I like her. Now, I see too things. This was a few days back, and she is still talking to me and all like we have been for the last couple of weeks. Do you think she is asking because she is like, oh my thats just freaky or do you think she is really curious if I am interested or not?

I just need some good advice and a little motivation, I am a little down right now and don't know where to turn anymore.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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get a # and ask her out, what do u have to lose?
 
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I got her #, already made that move.

My next question, just again for some reassurance to make myself better, how does one suggest going about asking a girl out. For some reason it seems you would want there to be a time and place, and really to me saying "Will you go out with me?" sounds way to much like getting married but "Want to go out?" sounds too elementary. Again, I am just stuck!
 
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"Hey, I'm going to the movies, at ________, to see _________. Come with me".

Don't ask her out, tell her out.

Lets really try and get this "tell her out" phrase going.
 
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Do you want to ask:

"Can we be girlfriend and boyfriend?"

Or

"Will you come with me at a certain place at this time?"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I am thinking more of the girlfriend way, what do you think? We have already went several places together and that was simple asking.
 
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Take her somewhere, for a walk around a lake or something. Then try a kiss close on her. If she kisses you, say something along the lines of "Go out with me".
 
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Plec07 said:
Take her somewhere, for a walk around a lake or something. Then try a kiss close on her. If she kisses you, say something along the lines of "Go out with me".
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Ooooh, that sounds like a good move.

Only problem I've had with plans like that are the random stuff, roommates around when they shouldn't, inopportune calls, hit in the face by a softball, etc...

I would suggest making a move soon though, a kiss is usually good enough to explain your intents.
 
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