yes yes I know. I should have had a plan on what to do after the opener. anyways I messaged a girl on Facebook. I used an opener I saw a forum somewhere that said " is that a wig or your real hair??" she messaged back with "its mine??" the guy on the forum said just to say you were just wondering and then to go straight into an opinion opener but I don't think that would be good since usually opinions need to be spontaneous. so what should I say next to transition?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
stuck in transition on Facebook
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
just be real man. say something like.
haha, hey i was just messin around there. i thought you wa cute so i had to message you.
then just talk about whatever. i would keep it short. then ask her for her number.
i hope this helps. ( this should come with a warning though. i am still a noobie so. take it was you will.)
haha, hey i was just messin around there. i thought you wa cute so i had to message you.
then just talk about whatever. i would keep it short. then ask her for her number.
i hope this helps. ( this should come with a warning though. i am still a noobie so. take it was you will.)
Yeah I'm a newb too. I thought it would be pretty obvious that I was hitting on her by asking her opinion when there are millions of other girls on facebook. So why not just come out and be direct. But then again what do I know. haha
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.