yes yes I know. I should have had a plan on what to do after the opener. anyways I messaged a girl on Facebook. I used an opener I saw a forum somewhere that said " is that a wig or your real hair??" she messaged back with "its mine??" the guy on the forum said just to say you were just wondering and then to go straight into an opinion opener but I don't think that would be good since usually opinions need to be spontaneous. so what should I say next to transition?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
stuck in transition on Facebook
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Master Don Juan
just be real man. say something like.
haha, hey i was just messin around there. i thought you wa cute so i had to message you.
then just talk about whatever. i would keep it short. then ask her for her number.
i hope this helps. ( this should come with a warning though. i am still a noobie so. take it was you will.)
haha, hey i was just messin around there. i thought you wa cute so i had to message you.
then just talk about whatever. i would keep it short. then ask her for her number.
i hope this helps. ( this should come with a warning though. i am still a noobie so. take it was you will.)
Yeah I'm a newb too. I thought it would be pretty obvious that I was hitting on her by asking her opinion when there are millions of other girls on facebook. So why not just come out and be direct. But then again what do I know. haha
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.