yes yes I know. I should have had a plan on what to do after the opener. anyways I messaged a girl on Facebook. I used an opener I saw a forum somewhere that said " is that a wig or your real hair??" she messaged back with "its mine??" the guy on the forum said just to say you were just wondering and then to go straight into an opinion opener but I don't think that would be good since usually opinions need to be spontaneous. so what should I say next to transition?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
stuck in transition on Facebook
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
just be real man. say something like.
haha, hey i was just messin around there. i thought you wa cute so i had to message you.
then just talk about whatever. i would keep it short. then ask her for her number.
i hope this helps. ( this should come with a warning though. i am still a noobie so. take it was you will.)
haha, hey i was just messin around there. i thought you wa cute so i had to message you.
then just talk about whatever. i would keep it short. then ask her for her number.
i hope this helps. ( this should come with a warning though. i am still a noobie so. take it was you will.)
Yeah I'm a newb too. I thought it would be pretty obvious that I was hitting on her by asking her opinion when there are millions of other girls on facebook. So why not just come out and be direct. But then again what do I know. haha
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.