Jake_Gyllenhaal69
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I live rent free in your head so I don’t care
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Struggling to Maintain Long Term Relationships
- Thread starter Georgepithyou
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
TheProspect
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Well duh
A chick doesn’t just walk up and tell you you’re in a relationship with her as if you have no choice lol
A girl will express a desire for exclusivity, at which point you discuss what that would look like (if you’re interested) before either accepting or declining.
EyeBRollin
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What are you talking about man? She doesn’t just declare y’all together. She asks “where is this going?” State the terms then the guy accepts or says “let’s just keep it the way it is.”
Jake_Gyllenhaal69
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See TheProspect's post, he said it better than me lol
I d maybe take a different way with screening. You asking what there most fun time was. If they talk about non stop parties and being out in the town you MAY be looking at a girl who s lost her stickiness. Obviously u don't next over one thing.
You do need to show you can communicate indirectly.
You do need to show you can communicate indirectly.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.