- The struggle to hold frame 24/7. You must resist her attempts to break you down and ply you to her will.
I will say that every time I doubt frame and loosen mine up in a relationship, I ultimately regret it. HOWEVER, holding frame does not mean being a d*ck, or making all the decisions, or having everything "your way" or being demanding or domineering. It simply means, if she is asking something you really don't agree with, especially on moral principles, then do not do it just to make her happy because believe me, it will not make her happy. For example, if she demands that you block an ex on social media or says she doesn't like some of your friends that you hang out with, and after you truly think about it and make up your own mind about whether what she is saying is fair or not, you do what you decide. You don't have to be a jerk about it - you can tell her you understand how it makes her feel and ask questions and honestly and genuinely care about her emotions, but it doesn't mean you have to do everything she tells you to. There are two types of women:
1. Women who were really just looking for the validation and assurance that you care, and by being open and willing to talk to her about it and truly understanding her and asking questions about it and letting her "get it all out", is all that she needs to make her happy - she's over it after that and isn't concerned with the demand she made. And you don't have to do anything you don't agree with.
2. Women who will not let go of the issue until you take the exact action they are demanding. No amount of positive, productive communication will satisfy her. She wants your compliance and she will not rest until she gets it. Even if she seems to put it behind her, she will be seething under the surface and it will manifest itself in many different ways, none of them pleasant, until finally it bubbles up to the surface again and she lashes out and repeats her same demand for compliance to you.
You can't win with woman #2 and they are simply not relationship material.
Secondly, a part of feminine energy is the desire to feel and experience the masculine. Trying to break you down and ply you to her will is exactly how they do this. They want to FEEL your strength. They may get upset, but a good woman will ultimately release after feeling that she's been heard through productive conversation, some physical touching, and a really, really good pounding. You have to reprogram your mindset to not see her challenges as annoying, but as her way of trying to experience your masculine energy.
- The damp realization that sex becomes routine and predictable. You may soon begin to crave new strange.
- The relationship leans more towards friendship as familiarity sets in. This can be good/bad depending on your lens and aim.
It doesn't have to be like this. Maybe you aren't dating women that you are REALLY turned on by? In the last 6 or so years, I've been in some relationships over a year and the sex never got boring, overly predictable, or less enjoyable. Did I crave some strange? Oh for sure, but if your girl really turns you on physically then the craving and urge for strange isn't so bad.
- You get comfortable, and so does she. Your habits should not falter, as you are a man. Women getting more lax is the norm - this is where you set her straight.
While you can encourage her to stay in good habits, I am wondering if the ways you do this, and over which specific things, might be what is causing some problems? This can be a touchy subject.
