"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Strike while it’s hot [FR]

Epicurus

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Was at work, another campus from the one I take my classes at. See a girl from one of my classes who I’ve never talked to. Had seen her before maybe shared two words and that was it. She approaches me and says. Hey didn’t know you came here, I said I don’t. I work here
Talked for about 30 minutes some flirting she was very open and told me she was done for the day. But wasn’t in a hurry as she kept on talking and talking. I was working so cut it short, asked for her number. Set up a coffee date for tomorrow.
It’s that easy
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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marmel75

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Was at work, another campus from the one I take my classes at. See a girl from one of my classes who I’ve never talked to. Had seen her before maybe shared two words and that was it. She approaches me and says. Hey didn’t know you came here, I said I don’t. I work here
Talked for about 30 minutes some flirting she was very open and told me she was done for the day. But wasn’t in a hurry as she kept on talking and talking. I was working so cut it short, asked for her number. Set up a coffee date for tomorrow.
It’s that easy
You had me until you said coffee date...zzzz....zzzzz....zzzzz
 

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You had me until you said coffee date...zzzz....zzzzz....zzzzz
Nothing wrong with a coffee date. 30-60 minutes tops. Either he likes her or he doesn't and he's not spending big $$. It's smart. Maybe they're both underage. They can go somewhere else if things go well or he can cut the date. Not so easy on an activity or dreaded dinner for the first date.

Coffee or 1-2 drink dates are the best choice for a first date. Don't try to impress. Let her impress you. Keep it short. Don't oversell.
 

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Nothing wrong with a coffee date. 30-60 minutes tops. Either he likes her or he doesn't and he's not spending big $$. It's smart. Maybe they're both underage. They can go somewhere else if things go well or he can cut the date. Not so easy on an activity or dreaded dinner for the first date.

Coffee or 1-2 drink dates are the best choice for a first date. Don't try to impress. Let her impress you. Keep it short. Don't oversell.
There is everything wrong with coffee dates they are boring...maybe if you are one of those artiste types then I guess that's the best you can come up with...snoozefest
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Coffee dates, booze dates, adult video store dates :D, they all trump "no" dates! who cares. Do what works for you. Not everybody likes the same thing!

I once took a $tripper on a second date to the adult video store. Spent $5 to make the video play for 30minutes and $20 for the guy to clean the room after we were done!

Even took a girl to a $trip club for a first date one time. I didn't give a schitt what she thought or if she blew me out for even suggesting it. It was close by, nice place, and if she didn't show or was a biatch at least I enjoyed myself.
 
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There is everything wrong with coffee dates they are boring...maybe if you are one of those artiste types then I guess that's the best you can come up with...snoozefest
They're as boring as you make them.

If you cannot hold a conversation, use humor or keep things interesting, yes, you will be boring. What I'm saying is anything more time or $-wise is a dumb move for a first date.
 

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Was at work, another campus from the one I take my classes at. See a girl from one of my classes who I’ve never talked to. Had seen her before maybe shared two words and that was it. She approaches me and says. Hey didn’t know you came here, I said I don’t. I work here
Talked for about 30 minutes some flirting she was very open and told me she was done for the day. But wasn’t in a hurry as she kept on talking and talking. I was working so cut it short, asked for her number. Set up a coffee date for tomorrow.
It’s that easy

umm but how do you look? are you muscular?


in my case coffee dates are usually ok but there was one disaster (or one and half) and after that i stopped them (sh111t ***** was boring af and i was locked there with her while she wasnt saying anythin) , not to mention, you can do much more if you go for a date walking in park in the evening, especially if they close you there, you can mingle kiss n cuddle, n stuff, you scare your girl that you will leave her here and jump off the fence, then you catch her when she jumps. much better. i pull same **** on every date LOL
 

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They're as boring as you make them.

If you cannot hold a conversation, use humor or keep things interesting, yes, you will be boring. What I'm saying is anything more time or $-wise is a dumb move for a first date.
Drinks and action(pool/darts) is my prference...or walk in the park/ice cream when nice out...

Not big on sitting down in one spot and talking with nothing else to do
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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@ImTheDoubleGreatest! she gave me props for the idea and told me it took some balls to throw it out there. Date went well. We went out once after that, never had sex. She got too needy too fast so I quit asking her out. Girl was ex-military and pretty hardcore, nothing sweet & submissive about her personality which is a turn off for me. I'm certain she wasn't a "quality" girl. lol. All I wanted back then was "hot & fun".
 
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@ImTheDoubleGreatest! she gave me props for the idea and told me it took some balls to throw it out there. Date went well. We went out once after that, never had sex. She got too needy too fast so I quit asking her out. Girl was ex-military and pretty hardcore, nothing sweet & submissive about her personality which is a turn off for me. I'm certain she wasn't a "quality" girl. lol. All I wanted back then was "hot & fun".
Haha. A girl in the military. I hope we never get attacked.
 
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