"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stressed out AF!

CaptFinnBad

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Foe

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Sorry to hear man, I remember feeling this kind of stress when my marriage was breaking down during a major project from work. My ex was fighting with me while I was on conference calls and I was muting while she was going off and then going back to the call pretending nothing was wrong and trying to concentrate on the task at hand.

Suffice to say I got through it and I believe now Im a stronger person. You will be the same, before this hurdle in your life you were in someway weaker then you will be when you get through it which you will.

Imagine what your capable of next. In the meantime you have to white knuckle it :)
 

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Sorry to hear this. It happens to all of us. Best thing to do is set some goals to knock out whatever the issues are, and go at it. Some goals will be short term and resolved in days. Others may take months. Focus on resolving what’s in your control and let the rest go. Come here and spill your guts to us as you need to. We have a great group of guys here who have, collectively, seen and been through pretty much everything.
 

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Don't join NATO. Lol
 

BillyPilgrim

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
Don't join NATO. Lol
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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bmp2cpm

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
My advice: never let on with a women when things are bad. Maybe explain you are a little distracted but that’s it. Women react to any weakness you display, so act like Captain Kirk and never show your hand.

Journaling can help, getting all the stuff out of your head and onto paper Is a great way to cope with stress. I’m a big fan of all things by Ryder Carroll. His journaling methods have helped me become more successful career-wise.

Another thing I would do is listen to some stuff from Jim Rohn. His talks remind me what is important.

Why do we fall?

Good luck!
 

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There are only three things I do when Im stressed:

A.- Bang my gf
B.- Exercise
C.- Play Fall Guys: Ultimate Knockout

Hope that helps.
 
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