"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Stressed out AF!

CaptFinnBad

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Foe

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Sorry to hear man, I remember feeling this kind of stress when my marriage was breaking down during a major project from work. My ex was fighting with me while I was on conference calls and I was muting while she was going off and then going back to the call pretending nothing was wrong and trying to concentrate on the task at hand.

Suffice to say I got through it and I believe now Im a stronger person. You will be the same, before this hurdle in your life you were in someway weaker then you will be when you get through it which you will.

Imagine what your capable of next. In the meantime you have to white knuckle it :)
 

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Sorry to hear this. It happens to all of us. Best thing to do is set some goals to knock out whatever the issues are, and go at it. Some goals will be short term and resolved in days. Others may take months. Focus on resolving what’s in your control and let the rest go. Come here and spill your guts to us as you need to. We have a great group of guys here who have, collectively, seen and been through pretty much everything.
 

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Don't join NATO. Lol
 

BillyPilgrim

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
Don't join NATO. Lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bmp2cpm

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
My advice: never let on with a women when things are bad. Maybe explain you are a little distracted but that’s it. Women react to any weakness you display, so act like Captain Kirk and never show your hand.

Journaling can help, getting all the stuff out of your head and onto paper Is a great way to cope with stress. I’m a big fan of all things by Ryder Carroll. His journaling methods have helped me become more successful career-wise.

Another thing I would do is listen to some stuff from Jim Rohn. His talks remind me what is important.

Why do we fall?

Good luck!
 

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There are only three things I do when Im stressed:

A.- Bang my gf
B.- Exercise
C.- Play Fall Guys: Ultimate Knockout

Hope that helps.
 
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