"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stressed out AF!

CaptFinnBad

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Foe

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Sorry to hear man, I remember feeling this kind of stress when my marriage was breaking down during a major project from work. My ex was fighting with me while I was on conference calls and I was muting while she was going off and then going back to the call pretending nothing was wrong and trying to concentrate on the task at hand.

Suffice to say I got through it and I believe now Im a stronger person. You will be the same, before this hurdle in your life you were in someway weaker then you will be when you get through it which you will.

Imagine what your capable of next. In the meantime you have to white knuckle it :)
 

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Sorry to hear this. It happens to all of us. Best thing to do is set some goals to knock out whatever the issues are, and go at it. Some goals will be short term and resolved in days. Others may take months. Focus on resolving what’s in your control and let the rest go. Come here and spill your guts to us as you need to. We have a great group of guys here who have, collectively, seen and been through pretty much everything.
 

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Don't join NATO. Lol
 

BillyPilgrim

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
Don't join NATO. Lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bmp2cpm

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Hit a turbulent time. Basically sailing through a **** storm, solutions on the horizon, it's something I can handle.

BUT I'm stressed out with all the life changing events going on, bit of an internal crisis.

The big thing is financial. I'm going to come out of this better off but it's going to be hard and I'm emotionally drained.

Got good women. Noticed as I'm stressed out dealing with everything my frame feels like it's slipping.

Advise.
My advice: never let on with a women when things are bad. Maybe explain you are a little distracted but that’s it. Women react to any weakness you display, so act like Captain Kirk and never show your hand.

Journaling can help, getting all the stuff out of your head and onto paper Is a great way to cope with stress. I’m a big fan of all things by Ryder Carroll. His journaling methods have helped me become more successful career-wise.

Another thing I would do is listen to some stuff from Jim Rohn. His talks remind me what is important.

Why do we fall?

Good luck!
 

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There are only three things I do when Im stressed:

A.- Bang my gf
B.- Exercise
C.- Play Fall Guys: Ultimate Knockout

Hope that helps.
 
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