"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cordoncordon said:
I will say that after seeing your pics, a lot of the things that you have posted about, and questions I had in my head about why you were posting these items...makes sense!!
How so? I'm curious.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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cordoncordon said:
Str8up is pic 0904 your 37 year old AW? I think it just may be :). If so, forget about her.
Bzzzzzzzz......wrong answer, but thanks for playing!
 

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Yea, you guys don't look or talk like you would have any problems with the ladies.

Just goes to show that not everyone on an internet site about dating is necessarily some ugly, clueless dork who couldn't meet a woman to save his life.
 

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Hmmm well lets see how do I say this. To me you are kind of a paradox. And if I am wrong here don't hesitate to tell me to go to hell lol, because you for sure have good game going on.

There is no doubt from your posts that you get some play with some decent looking ladies, and yet many of your posts, before I knew what you looked like, struck me as kind funny or odd coming from someone who had THAT many different and crazy experiences with so many different women. I mean you never struck me as a nerd or a guy that didnt have a date if he wanted one.

I don't know sometimes it just seemed like for someone who got that much play, you seemed overly worried or analytical about women, like your confidence wasn't where it should have been considering your "stories" and experience. And that kinda makes sense now, because I would not classify you as what most women would classify as "great looking" or "handsome". So I can imagine when you were younger that you might have struggled somewhat with women before you found out what worked for you today. So deep down, and again this could be totally off base, but deep down you might be like one of those woman who as a teen was fat, wore braces, never had a date, and as she got older blossomed into a hot piece of azz. And yet in her mind, she will always be the awkward, ugly duckling teen, and so she dates guys that are beneath her look wise. She doesn't have the confidence. You for sure have the experience with women, but maybe underneath it all that subtle lack of confidence or urge to analyze women comes from your lack of what most would call classic good looks and struggles with women early on in life?

And with all that being said, you are not ugly in the least, so please don't take it like that. I guess it all comes back to after reading about your stories for a few years here, i expected a Brad Pitt player type guy, and that isn't you at all. Not that there is anything wrong with that lol.
 

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cordoncordon said:
I don't know sometimes it just seemed like for someone who got that much play, you seemed overly worried or analytical about women, like your confidence wasn't where it should have been considering your "stories" and experience.
That's what I always thought too. However his meticulous observations makes him one of the most important guys on this forum. I've learned alot from STR8UP. Edit: I should say STILL learning! =D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I want to see what some of the girls look like on this forum.

I've seen a pic of Wyldfire already. (She's very pretty)

So Iqqi? Water Tiger?
 

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Thunder, is there a link to the wyldfire pics?

Iqqi i would like to see as well.
 

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It was in her avatar on her profile page here...before she got banned. =( Maybe she'll see this topic and post again!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CordonCordon...great catch man, your gf's really attractive! Good job! You look jacked in your pic, how long have you been training for?

I think STR8UP's totally right about guys on here not really "needing" this forum...but using it more as a means to improve their game.

Here's some pics of me and my gf...most of these shots are modelling/promo shots as thats' all I have on my photobucket account.

Me:

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/DSC02440.jpg

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/DSC02441.jpg

These are from my most recent shoot.

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/n670165581_1126369_3478.jpg

A goofy shot of me from a stagette!

My Gf:

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/ar01250.jpg

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/omp563.jpg

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/IMG_3811.jpg


A shot of us together...the lighting in this shoot was brutal.

http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m91/Treydesmon/IMG_1425web.jpg
 

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Fuglydude...props my man! Talk about training, noice! We should exchange training tips. Helluva body my man. Your body fat has to be n the 7-8% range tops.

I've been lifting and playing sports since I was 15 so I have always tried to stay in great shape.

And your gf? Very hot. She has very sultry eyes. You two make a good couple.
 

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fugly, you could be scoring chics much hotter than your gf.

she isn't ugly, but she's about a 6.5 / 7.

you could be landing 8-10s given the shape you are in.
 

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cordoncordon said:
Fuglydude...props my man! Talk about training, noice! We should exchange training tips. Helluva body my man. Your body fat has to be n the 7-8% range tops.

I've been lifting and playing sports since I was 15 so I have always tried to stay in great shape.

And your gf? Very hot. She has very sultry eyes. You two make a good couple.
Thanks man. However, I don't think i'm 7-8% bf! Maybe like 10-12 tho. In the modelling shots I was on a herbal diuretic to lose subcutaneous water, so that makes you look more cut. How about you? Do you train for aesthetics purely or athletic peformance, strength, etc?

Ya, I'm lucky to have a great relationship with a nice girl.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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fugly, you could be scoring chics much hotter than your gf.

she isn't ugly, but she's about a 6.5 / 7.

you could be landing 8-10s given the shape you are in.
She's a professional model bro...and I'm not with her JUST for her looks...I have a system for rating chics...appearance is one factor, but intelligence, personality and the x-factor are also considered. I call it my APIX scale :) By the way, most of my friends...give her a 8 to a 9 on the 10 scale...

And believe me this girl has done a lot for me...she basically saved me from drug addiction. I always joke that i would have caught an STD a long time ago if it hadn't been for her and our LTR. She's also extremely loyal, and ya I think she's very attractive...classic "good girl", and very giving in bed as well.
 

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Ahhh I see.

Yeah I train strictly to look at myself in mirror :).

No lol, I do it just to stay in shape and because I honestly enjoy doing it. Nothing better than the feeling of walking around knowing you are in better shape than 95% of the people you see. Great natural high.
 

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AlphaSoldier said:
Wow. You have this supermodel chick, and still coming to SoSuave to become a DonJuan... how come?

-AS
you know the chic in the red shirt beside his gf is banging hot i bet. she's got a smoking body, she just doesn't show it off.


as for why he's on sosuave.... a lot of guys come here as a place to talk about whats on their mind.

having a hot chic doesn't preclude you from sosuave.
 

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cordoncordon said:
Ahhh I see.

Yeah I train strictly to look at myself in mirror :).

No lol, I do it just to stay in shape and because I honestly enjoy doing it. Nothing better than the feeling of walking around knowing you are in better shape than 95% of the people you see. Great natural high.
Ya I totally get what you mean bro. I hate having to stay lean year round tho...i love pizza and ice cream!

What are your stats like? ht/wt, lifts, etc.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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