How so? I'm curious.cordoncordon said:I will say that after seeing your pics, a lot of the things that you have posted about, and questions I had in my head about why you were posting these items...makes sense!!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How so? I'm curious.cordoncordon said:I will say that after seeing your pics, a lot of the things that you have posted about, and questions I had in my head about why you were posting these items...makes sense!!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bzzzzzzzz......wrong answer, but thanks for playing!cordoncordon said:Str8up is pic 0904 your 37 year old AW? I think it just may be. If so, forget about her.
That's what I always thought too. However his meticulous observations makes him one of the most important guys on this forum. I've learned alot from STR8UP. Edit: I should say STILL learning! =Dcordoncordon said:I don't know sometimes it just seemed like for someone who got that much play, you seemed overly worried or analytical about women, like your confidence wasn't where it should have been considering your "stories" and experience.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
cordoncordon said:My pics..
Me...yes I know it's small but for some reason I can't get it blown up and saved. Anyone help there?
http://img88.imageshack.us/img88/3373/matt6am1.jpg
GF of 3 years, green dress, blond...soon to be finace
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Thanks man. However, I don't think i'm 7-8% bf! Maybe like 10-12 tho. In the modelling shots I was on a herbal diuretic to lose subcutaneous water, so that makes you look more cut. How about you? Do you train for aesthetics purely or athletic peformance, strength, etc?cordoncordon said:Fuglydude...props my man! Talk about training, noice! We should exchange training tips. Helluva body my man. Your body fat has to be n the 7-8% range tops.
I've been lifting and playing sports since I was 15 so I have always tried to stay in great shape.
And your gf? Very hot. She has very sultry eyes. You two make a good couple.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She's a professional model bro...and I'm not with her JUST for her looks...I have a system for rating chics...appearance is one factor, but intelligence, personality and the x-factor are also considered. I call it my APIX scalejoekerr31 said:fugly, you could be scoring chics much hotter than your gf.
she isn't ugly, but she's about a 6.5 / 7.
you could be landing 8-10s given the shape you are in.
Wow. You have this supermodel chick, and still coming to SoSuave to become a DonJuan... how come?cordoncordon said:GF of 3 years, green dress, blond...soon to be finance
http://img135.imageshack.us/img135/6734/pamtj8.jpg
you know the chic in the red shirt beside his gf is banging hot i bet. she's got a smoking body, she just doesn't show it off.AlphaSoldier said:Wow. You have this supermodel chick, and still coming to SoSuave to become a DonJuan... how come?
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Ya I totally get what you mean bro. I hate having to stay lean year round tho...i love pizza and ice cream!cordoncordon said:Ahhh I see.
Yeah I train strictly to look at myself in mirror.
No lol, I do it just to stay in shape and because I honestly enjoy doing it. Nothing better than the feeling of walking around knowing you are in better shape than 95% of the people you see. Great natural high.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.