How so? I'm curious.cordoncordon said:I will say that after seeing your pics, a lot of the things that you have posted about, and questions I had in my head about why you were posting these items...makes sense!!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How so? I'm curious.cordoncordon said:I will say that after seeing your pics, a lot of the things that you have posted about, and questions I had in my head about why you were posting these items...makes sense!!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bzzzzzzzz......wrong answer, but thanks for playing!cordoncordon said:Str8up is pic 0904 your 37 year old AW? I think it just may be. If so, forget about her.
That's what I always thought too. However his meticulous observations makes him one of the most important guys on this forum. I've learned alot from STR8UP. Edit: I should say STILL learning! =Dcordoncordon said:I don't know sometimes it just seemed like for someone who got that much play, you seemed overly worried or analytical about women, like your confidence wasn't where it should have been considering your "stories" and experience.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
cordoncordon said:My pics..
Me...yes I know it's small but for some reason I can't get it blown up and saved. Anyone help there?
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GF of 3 years, green dress, blond...soon to be finace
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thanks man. However, I don't think i'm 7-8% bf! Maybe like 10-12 tho. In the modelling shots I was on a herbal diuretic to lose subcutaneous water, so that makes you look more cut. How about you? Do you train for aesthetics purely or athletic peformance, strength, etc?cordoncordon said:Fuglydude...props my man! Talk about training, noice! We should exchange training tips. Helluva body my man. Your body fat has to be n the 7-8% range tops.
I've been lifting and playing sports since I was 15 so I have always tried to stay in great shape.
And your gf? Very hot. She has very sultry eyes. You two make a good couple.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She's a professional model bro...and I'm not with her JUST for her looks...I have a system for rating chics...appearance is one factor, but intelligence, personality and the x-factor are also considered. I call it my APIX scalejoekerr31 said:fugly, you could be scoring chics much hotter than your gf.
she isn't ugly, but she's about a 6.5 / 7.
you could be landing 8-10s given the shape you are in.
Wow. You have this supermodel chick, and still coming to SoSuave to become a DonJuan... how come?cordoncordon said:GF of 3 years, green dress, blond...soon to be finance
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you know the chic in the red shirt beside his gf is banging hot i bet. she's got a smoking body, she just doesn't show it off.AlphaSoldier said:Wow. You have this supermodel chick, and still coming to SoSuave to become a DonJuan... how come?
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Ya I totally get what you mean bro. I hate having to stay lean year round tho...i love pizza and ice cream!cordoncordon said:Ahhh I see.
Yeah I train strictly to look at myself in mirror.
No lol, I do it just to stay in shape and because I honestly enjoy doing it. Nothing better than the feeling of walking around knowing you are in better shape than 95% of the people you see. Great natural high.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.