How so? I'm curious.cordoncordon said:I will say that after seeing your pics, a lot of the things that you have posted about, and questions I had in my head about why you were posting these items...makes sense!!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How so? I'm curious.cordoncordon said:I will say that after seeing your pics, a lot of the things that you have posted about, and questions I had in my head about why you were posting these items...makes sense!!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bzzzzzzzz......wrong answer, but thanks for playing!cordoncordon said:Str8up is pic 0904 your 37 year old AW? I think it just may be. If so, forget about her.
That's what I always thought too. However his meticulous observations makes him one of the most important guys on this forum. I've learned alot from STR8UP. Edit: I should say STILL learning! =Dcordoncordon said:I don't know sometimes it just seemed like for someone who got that much play, you seemed overly worried or analytical about women, like your confidence wasn't where it should have been considering your "stories" and experience.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
cordoncordon said:My pics..
Me...yes I know it's small but for some reason I can't get it blown up and saved. Anyone help there?
http://img88.imageshack.us/img88/3373/matt6am1.jpg
GF of 3 years, green dress, blond...soon to be finace
http://img135.imageshack.us/img135/6734/pamtj8.jpg
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thanks man. However, I don't think i'm 7-8% bf! Maybe like 10-12 tho. In the modelling shots I was on a herbal diuretic to lose subcutaneous water, so that makes you look more cut. How about you? Do you train for aesthetics purely or athletic peformance, strength, etc?cordoncordon said:Fuglydude...props my man! Talk about training, noice! We should exchange training tips. Helluva body my man. Your body fat has to be n the 7-8% range tops.
I've been lifting and playing sports since I was 15 so I have always tried to stay in great shape.
And your gf? Very hot. She has very sultry eyes. You two make a good couple.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She's a professional model bro...and I'm not with her JUST for her looks...I have a system for rating chics...appearance is one factor, but intelligence, personality and the x-factor are also considered. I call it my APIX scalejoekerr31 said:fugly, you could be scoring chics much hotter than your gf.
she isn't ugly, but she's about a 6.5 / 7.
you could be landing 8-10s given the shape you are in.
Wow. You have this supermodel chick, and still coming to SoSuave to become a DonJuan... how come?cordoncordon said:GF of 3 years, green dress, blond...soon to be finance
http://img135.imageshack.us/img135/6734/pamtj8.jpg
you know the chic in the red shirt beside his gf is banging hot i bet. she's got a smoking body, she just doesn't show it off.AlphaSoldier said:Wow. You have this supermodel chick, and still coming to SoSuave to become a DonJuan... how come?
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Ya I totally get what you mean bro. I hate having to stay lean year round tho...i love pizza and ice cream!cordoncordon said:Ahhh I see.
Yeah I train strictly to look at myself in mirror.
No lol, I do it just to stay in shape and because I honestly enjoy doing it. Nothing better than the feeling of walking around knowing you are in better shape than 95% of the people you see. Great natural high.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.