"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Advice would be nice.

Few nights ago, met a girl on myspace. I'm 19, she's 19. We started messaging back and forth for a day, and then on Saturday she gave me her number and said to text her.

We spent all day Sat texting and when Sunday rolled around, she gave me a call. We talked for several hours that night and when I got off the phone she quickly text me and said she enjoyed talking to me. She asked me for a pic (which was weird since she had my myspace) and she sent me a couple of her.

Monday night she called again and we talked until about 2AM. Today in class she text me to see what I was doing at 2:30. I told her work so she asked if I wanted to meet later tonight and I said yes.

When I got off she gave me a call and we agreed to meet up someplace. I pull in and she's right behind me, so we talk for a bit and agree to head towards Starbucks. Couple miles down the highway she takes an exit. I called her and it went straight to voicemail, and I text her and no reply.

What's up with this? All the interest and then nothing?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Linuss said:
Advice would be nice.

Few nights ago, met a girl on myspace. I'm 19, she's 19. We started messaging back and forth for a day, and then on Saturday she gave me her number and said to text her.

We spent all day Sat texting and when Sunday rolled around, she gave me a call. We talked for several hours that night and when I got off the phone she quickly text me and said she enjoyed talking to me. She asked me for a pic (which was weird since she had my myspace) and she sent me a couple of her.

Monday night she called again and we talked until about 2AM. Today in class she text me to see what I was doing at 2:30. I told her work so she asked if I wanted to meet later tonight and I said yes.

When I got off she gave me a call and we agreed to meet up someplace. I pull in and she's right behind me, so we talk for a bit and agree to head towards Starbucks. Couple miles down the highway she takes an exit. I called her and it went straight to voicemail, and I text her and no reply.

What's up with this? All the interest and then nothing?
Dude that ain't being stood up, that's downright scary. I hope she doesn't work for a criminal organization.
 

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second thoughts? hmmm perhaps she got scared and chickened out or maybe she wasnt interested in what she saw... who knows.
 

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^^^^Like she said^^^^
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonGorgon said:
Why do women do stuff like this??? It wastes so much time.

No wonder people cant have relationships anymore they are too damn busy trying to play each other.
if she drove up and went into a convenient store where you were to meet her and you drive up and notice her, from her picture, and then notice she had a hunchback and a badonkadonk butt... would you drive off? its cruel .. but it's honest..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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penkitten said:
if she drove up and went into a convenient store where you were to meet her and you drive up and notice her, from her picture, and then notice she had a hunchback and a badonkadonk butt... would you drive off? its cruel .. but it's honest..
Oh yeh thats true.... Soo. the OP is ugly as hell and she bailed???
 
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