"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Advice would be nice.

Few nights ago, met a girl on myspace. I'm 19, she's 19. We started messaging back and forth for a day, and then on Saturday she gave me her number and said to text her.

We spent all day Sat texting and when Sunday rolled around, she gave me a call. We talked for several hours that night and when I got off the phone she quickly text me and said she enjoyed talking to me. She asked me for a pic (which was weird since she had my myspace) and she sent me a couple of her.

Monday night she called again and we talked until about 2AM. Today in class she text me to see what I was doing at 2:30. I told her work so she asked if I wanted to meet later tonight and I said yes.

When I got off she gave me a call and we agreed to meet up someplace. I pull in and she's right behind me, so we talk for a bit and agree to head towards Starbucks. Couple miles down the highway she takes an exit. I called her and it went straight to voicemail, and I text her and no reply.

What's up with this? All the interest and then nothing?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Linuss said:
Advice would be nice.

Few nights ago, met a girl on myspace. I'm 19, she's 19. We started messaging back and forth for a day, and then on Saturday she gave me her number and said to text her.

We spent all day Sat texting and when Sunday rolled around, she gave me a call. We talked for several hours that night and when I got off the phone she quickly text me and said she enjoyed talking to me. She asked me for a pic (which was weird since she had my myspace) and she sent me a couple of her.

Monday night she called again and we talked until about 2AM. Today in class she text me to see what I was doing at 2:30. I told her work so she asked if I wanted to meet later tonight and I said yes.

When I got off she gave me a call and we agreed to meet up someplace. I pull in and she's right behind me, so we talk for a bit and agree to head towards Starbucks. Couple miles down the highway she takes an exit. I called her and it went straight to voicemail, and I text her and no reply.

What's up with this? All the interest and then nothing?
Dude that ain't being stood up, that's downright scary. I hope she doesn't work for a criminal organization.
 

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second thoughts? hmmm perhaps she got scared and chickened out or maybe she wasnt interested in what she saw... who knows.
 

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^^^^Like she said^^^^
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DonGorgon said:
Why do women do stuff like this??? It wastes so much time.

No wonder people cant have relationships anymore they are too damn busy trying to play each other.
if she drove up and went into a convenient store where you were to meet her and you drive up and notice her, from her picture, and then notice she had a hunchback and a badonkadonk butt... would you drive off? its cruel .. but it's honest..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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penkitten said:
if she drove up and went into a convenient store where you were to meet her and you drive up and notice her, from her picture, and then notice she had a hunchback and a badonkadonk butt... would you drive off? its cruel .. but it's honest..
Oh yeh thats true.... Soo. the OP is ugly as hell and she bailed???
 
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