I guess you could say I'm in a little bit of a pickle. These past few months I've really turned on my game and led on quite a few girls, and actually like a couple of those also, now recently I met this girl who I actually like a lot and would consider a relationship. My question is how do I handle all of these other girls that I've talked up so much?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Sticky situation...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
NorwegianDJ
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Continue talking to most of the girls while going for the girl you want the most 
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Personally I would just tell the truth, i would tell the other girls that ive found someone i really like and that im not sure if anything can happen. This will probably make them want you more but oh well its a quality problem to have.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
Mr Wright is correct. Tell them the truth, it will make you more desireable to most. But it will stop you leading them on. And if your girlfriend/future girlfriend gets jelous you can say "well I told them that I'm with you and that nothing can happen, it's not my fault if they still like me cos I'm awsome".
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.