I guess you could say I'm in a little bit of a pickle. These past few months I've really turned on my game and led on quite a few girls, and actually like a couple of those also, now recently I met this girl who I actually like a lot and would consider a relationship. My question is how do I handle all of these other girls that I've talked up so much?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Sticky situation...
- Thread starter Gamemasta
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
NorwegianDJ
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Continue talking to most of the girls while going for the girl you want the most 
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Personally I would just tell the truth, i would tell the other girls that ive found someone i really like and that im not sure if anything can happen. This will probably make them want you more but oh well its a quality problem to have.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
Mr Wright is correct. Tell them the truth, it will make you more desireable to most. But it will stop you leading them on. And if your girlfriend/future girlfriend gets jelous you can say "well I told them that I'm with you and that nothing can happen, it's not my fault if they still like me cos I'm awsome".
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.