"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sticking point: Boring Conversation

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sharing a common interest isn't sexual attraction. I'm sure there's lots of girls who like history, too, but that doesn't mean I think they're hot.
Yeah but they gotta like guys like you. Your type will be most comparable with a educated white collar chick.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Idk I kind of like those Hooters girls. I wouldn't mind giving them a little money if they were hot and fvcked me all the time.
You'll be in the same position you are today. Alot of girls like that do have a "trick" or "sugar daddy" or multiple. Thing about it is they have a boyfriend too and your helping him out. The best sex gonna come from a lady who desire you without money. And by being in this cycle of paying your not having to be attractive. So your hurting yourself. So maybe have a mix of paid and non paid.
 
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You'll be in the same position you are today. Alot of girls like that do have a "trick" or "sugar daddy" or multiple. Thing about it is they have a boyfriend too and your helping him out. The best sex gonna come from a lady who desire you without money. And by being in this cycle of paying your not having to be attractive. So your hurting yourself. So maybe have a mix of paid and non paid.
I guess I don't really see what is so "alpha" about their boyfriend who is so lazy he has to mooch off others. I know they don't all have these kind of guys.

A passive, beta type could not get rich or run a business in the first place.

I would get bored of them after fvcking them just a few times anyway. I've never paid the same girl for sex more than once.

I wasn't scared of the guys in prison, so I doubt I would be scared of their boyfriend, anyway. I don't get what his appeal is in the first place.
 

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Inject comedy and abstract thought into the convo, I have a tendency to bring out the fun in people. I will find something funny/interesting to say in any situation, but I work in sales and have quick wit. It's something you most definitely can learn as I wasn't always this way. The wit was there, but the confidence to say what you want wasn't, again, it's a confidence thing. Don't be scared to say what you want and take a convo in the direction you want. Active listening with confidence are the skills you need, not just with women for for life.
 

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I guess I don't really see what is so "alpha" about their boyfriend who is so lazy he has to mooch off others. I know they don't all have these kind of guys.

A passive, beta type could not get rich or run a business in the first place.

I would get bored of them after fvcking them just a few times anyway. I've never paid the same girl for sex more than once.

I wasn't scared of the guys in prison, so I doubt I would be scared of their boyfriend, anyway. I don't get what his appeal is in the first place.
But you see what I'm saying. Most of them do those games, it's part of the territory. And no matter how lazy or low you/we might think the boyfriend is, he's the one she WANTS to fvck. Also in the end the girls are very similarly mentally to their man. I learned it's real important the type of mind you lay with cause it can affect your own mind. That's why I pointed you to sufficiently hot white collar educated babes.
 
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But you see what I'm saying. Most of them do those games, it's part of the territory. And no matter how lazy or low you/we might think the boyfriend is, he's the one she WANTS to fvck. Also in the end the girls are very similarly mentally to their man. I learned it's real important the type of mind you lay with cause it can affect your own mind. That's why I pointed you to sufficiently hot white collar educated babes.
Yea if only I knew where to meet them. I don't actually meet a whole lot of people.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yea if only I knew where to meet them. I don't actually meet a whole lot of people.
Those types. Remember they stay in "high school" mentality. Those types are in the club from 18-30. Those are club/party girls. You might be able to get one on a trip or interesting outing.
 
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Those types. Remember they stay in "high school" mentality. Those types are in the club from 18-30. Those are club/party girls. You might be able to get one on a trip or interesting outing.
If only I wasn't Florida's first ever convicted cyberstalker... Lol.

I definitely gotta change my last name in 2019.
 
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