So I frequent a Starbucks daily that's close to my campus (close meaning, 1 minute walk) and there's this seriously cute barista working there. I think she just started there recently, but I'm wondering how I would go about approaching her? Even if just a friendly way. I don't know her name since the employees do not wear name tags, but we do make eye contact a lot if I'm sitting down there. I'm most likely overanalyzing the eye contact, but I'm at a loss here. How do I go about climbing aboard the small talk ship?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
JohnChops
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Talk to her......i don't get it. Yes it is that easy. No over thinking, just simple conversation .
man your so outta wack its sickening!
just today as i drove by a few times a few different locations droves of girls walking in and out
why get hung up on one thats PINNED there daily?
If anything just BEFRIEND HER ONLY so when you do go there your socializing with her and not standing by the condiments like a creep
just today as i drove by a few times a few different locations droves of girls walking in and out
why get hung up on one thats PINNED there daily?
If anything just BEFRIEND HER ONLY so when you do go there your socializing with her and not standing by the condiments like a creep
It sounds like you are looking for a way to start a conversation.
It is pretty easy. Be in a good mood, smile and part way through her making your drink or whatever, say something like "Cool earrings" and lightly smile.
You can gauge her receptiveness to you. Then just say a few things. But make those things fun and charming..
It is pretty easy. Be in a good mood, smile and part way through her making your drink or whatever, say something like "Cool earrings" and lightly smile.
You can gauge her receptiveness to you. Then just say a few things. But make those things fun and charming..
flashpoint
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best thing to approach is as if you v known her your whole life already. if you can pull that off. imagine you guys already know each other, you simply would say "so how are you today" and yaddayadda. you might even ask something about her day or tell her about yours or what you are going to do or anything like that. so next time you guys see each other, you are already on friendly terms and you can take it from there. invite her to a party or something then.
that would be one way, sure there are others tho.
that would be one way, sure there are others tho.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Don't be scared, make a move, go for the number. And stop overanalyzing. So ordered. 
Case closed. Leave my court.
Case closed. Leave my court.
i think this is a problem when you create a thread about one girl you dont even know as if she is the end all be all. What happens when you see a cute chick at a grocery store? You're gonna run back here and ask for help again?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.