So I frequent a Starbucks daily that's close to my campus (close meaning, 1 minute walk) and there's this seriously cute barista working there. I think she just started there recently, but I'm wondering how I would go about approaching her? Even if just a friendly way. I don't know her name since the employees do not wear name tags, but we do make eye contact a lot if I'm sitting down there. I'm most likely overanalyzing the eye contact, but I'm at a loss here. How do I go about climbing aboard the small talk ship?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
JohnChops
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Talk to her......i don't get it. Yes it is that easy. No over thinking, just simple conversation .
man your so outta wack its sickening!
just today as i drove by a few times a few different locations droves of girls walking in and out
why get hung up on one thats PINNED there daily?
If anything just BEFRIEND HER ONLY so when you do go there your socializing with her and not standing by the condiments like a creep
just today as i drove by a few times a few different locations droves of girls walking in and out
why get hung up on one thats PINNED there daily?
If anything just BEFRIEND HER ONLY so when you do go there your socializing with her and not standing by the condiments like a creep
It sounds like you are looking for a way to start a conversation.
It is pretty easy. Be in a good mood, smile and part way through her making your drink or whatever, say something like "Cool earrings" and lightly smile.
You can gauge her receptiveness to you. Then just say a few things. But make those things fun and charming..
It is pretty easy. Be in a good mood, smile and part way through her making your drink or whatever, say something like "Cool earrings" and lightly smile.
You can gauge her receptiveness to you. Then just say a few things. But make those things fun and charming..
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best thing to approach is as if you v known her your whole life already. if you can pull that off. imagine you guys already know each other, you simply would say "so how are you today" and yaddayadda. you might even ask something about her day or tell her about yours or what you are going to do or anything like that. so next time you guys see each other, you are already on friendly terms and you can take it from there. invite her to a party or something then.
that would be one way, sure there are others tho.
that would be one way, sure there are others tho.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Don't be scared, make a move, go for the number. And stop overanalyzing. So ordered. 
Case closed. Leave my court.
Case closed. Leave my court.
i think this is a problem when you create a thread about one girl you dont even know as if she is the end all be all. What happens when you see a cute chick at a grocery store? You're gonna run back here and ask for help again?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.