So I frequent a Starbucks daily that's close to my campus (close meaning, 1 minute walk) and there's this seriously cute barista working there. I think she just started there recently, but I'm wondering how I would go about approaching her? Even if just a friendly way. I don't know her name since the employees do not wear name tags, but we do make eye contact a lot if I'm sitting down there. I'm most likely overanalyzing the eye contact, but I'm at a loss here. How do I go about climbing aboard the small talk ship?
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Talk to her......i don't get it. Yes it is that easy. No over thinking, just simple conversation .
man your so outta wack its sickening!
just today as i drove by a few times a few different locations droves of girls walking in and out
why get hung up on one thats PINNED there daily?
If anything just BEFRIEND HER ONLY so when you do go there your socializing with her and not standing by the condiments like a creep
just today as i drove by a few times a few different locations droves of girls walking in and out
why get hung up on one thats PINNED there daily?
If anything just BEFRIEND HER ONLY so when you do go there your socializing with her and not standing by the condiments like a creep
It sounds like you are looking for a way to start a conversation.
It is pretty easy. Be in a good mood, smile and part way through her making your drink or whatever, say something like "Cool earrings" and lightly smile.
You can gauge her receptiveness to you. Then just say a few things. But make those things fun and charming..
It is pretty easy. Be in a good mood, smile and part way through her making your drink or whatever, say something like "Cool earrings" and lightly smile.
You can gauge her receptiveness to you. Then just say a few things. But make those things fun and charming..
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best thing to approach is as if you v known her your whole life already. if you can pull that off. imagine you guys already know each other, you simply would say "so how are you today" and yaddayadda. you might even ask something about her day or tell her about yours or what you are going to do or anything like that. so next time you guys see each other, you are already on friendly terms and you can take it from there. invite her to a party or something then.
that would be one way, sure there are others tho.
that would be one way, sure there are others tho.
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Don't be scared, make a move, go for the number. And stop overanalyzing. So ordered. 
Case closed. Leave my court.
Case closed. Leave my court.
i think this is a problem when you create a thread about one girl you dont even know as if she is the end all be all. What happens when you see a cute chick at a grocery store? You're gonna run back here and ask for help again?
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