So I frequent a Starbucks daily that's close to my campus (close meaning, 1 minute walk) and there's this seriously cute barista working there. I think she just started there recently, but I'm wondering how I would go about approaching her? Even if just a friendly way. I don't know her name since the employees do not wear name tags, but we do make eye contact a lot if I'm sitting down there. I'm most likely overanalyzing the eye contact, but I'm at a loss here. How do I go about climbing aboard the small talk ship?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Talk to her......i don't get it. Yes it is that easy. No over thinking, just simple conversation .
man your so outta wack its sickening!
just today as i drove by a few times a few different locations droves of girls walking in and out
why get hung up on one thats PINNED there daily?
If anything just BEFRIEND HER ONLY so when you do go there your socializing with her and not standing by the condiments like a creep
just today as i drove by a few times a few different locations droves of girls walking in and out
why get hung up on one thats PINNED there daily?
If anything just BEFRIEND HER ONLY so when you do go there your socializing with her and not standing by the condiments like a creep
It sounds like you are looking for a way to start a conversation.
It is pretty easy. Be in a good mood, smile and part way through her making your drink or whatever, say something like "Cool earrings" and lightly smile.
You can gauge her receptiveness to you. Then just say a few things. But make those things fun and charming..
It is pretty easy. Be in a good mood, smile and part way through her making your drink or whatever, say something like "Cool earrings" and lightly smile.
You can gauge her receptiveness to you. Then just say a few things. But make those things fun and charming..
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best thing to approach is as if you v known her your whole life already. if you can pull that off. imagine you guys already know each other, you simply would say "so how are you today" and yaddayadda. you might even ask something about her day or tell her about yours or what you are going to do or anything like that. so next time you guys see each other, you are already on friendly terms and you can take it from there. invite her to a party or something then.
that would be one way, sure there are others tho.
that would be one way, sure there are others tho.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Don't be scared, make a move, go for the number. And stop overanalyzing. So ordered. 
Case closed. Leave my court.
Case closed. Leave my court.
i think this is a problem when you create a thread about one girl you dont even know as if she is the end all be all. What happens when you see a cute chick at a grocery store? You're gonna run back here and ask for help again?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.