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Squats and Deadlifts together?

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Is it ok to do squats and deadlifts together in workout along with other exercises?
Or will this lead to overtraining?
 

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yake said:
Is it ok to do squats and deadlifts together in workout along with other exercises?
Or will this lead to overtraining?
depends on the rest of the workout but if volume is low enough it could work. although I'd have to ask WHY you wanted to pair them together in the first place.. in general it's not recommended at all (powerlifting aside).
 

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Sure you can... imo

If you usually do 6 sets of squats, you can do 3 sets of squats and 3 sets of deadlifts.

The thing I don't like about it is that you have to shift all the weights back and forth.
 

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Ice Cold said:
Sure you can... imo

If you usually do 6 sets of squats, you can do 3 sets of squats and 3 sets of deadlifts.

The thing I don't like about it is that you have to shift all the weights back and forth.
you can't pushing maximal weights that way. the volume would have to be really low for squats and deads in the same workout and more along the lines of powerlifting (working up to a triple, double or even single) on both the squat and the deadlift.. for bodybuilding (higher reps) I would never do them on the same day. going up to your 1RM is one thing, doing multiple sets at your 5RM is quite another.
 

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I don't do them together. It's one or the other. When I did deadlifts before, I'd throw in dumbbell lunges instead of squats, try to come up w/something supplemental exercise like that.
 

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I do squats on monday, deads on fridays.
 

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bmxcetera said:
I don't do them together. It's one or the other. When I did deadlifts before, I'd throw in dumbbell lunges instead of squats, try to come up w/something supplemental exercise like that.
that works. like squats and rack pulls or deadlifts and good mornings.
 

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Well, right now I am doing a full body workout three times week. Why? Because I'm rather unpatient, so I can't stand long rest periouds . All I do is compound lifts, except for calf raises. I do a few warmup sets and then 3 worksets. So, do you think it would work out if I did squats one day, deadlifts in the next training session and then squats again?
 

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This is total bs. Absolutely nothing wrong with doing deads and squats in the same session if your program is specifically designed for it.

Check out Rippetoe, similar to 5x5:

lift m/w/f, alternate workout A and workout B

workout A: squat 5x3, bench 5x3, power clean 5x3 or 3x5 (some people substitute BB rows for power cleans)

workout B: squat 5x3, deadlift 5x1/5x2, overhead press 5x3

not including progressive warmup sets

That's squatting 3x a week (heavy) and deadlifting once or twice a week (heavy) depending on the week. Perfectly legit and great for mass, strength, BBing, PLing, whatever. And this is a program that has (and continues to) work for thousands of lifters, very effectively.
 

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Squats and Stiff legged deadlifts sound like a good complement.

Now deadlifts and squats do target the same major movers, but in different ways. I would suggest giving priority to squats, then a few sets deadlifts if you are so inclined.

Yake. Your approach is FINE. Different ways to skin a cat.

Tons lifted should be the same if not more. If anything it could be more productive, as you are getting more training lessions in per week. Just don't do the sessions to complete fatique like the traditional 1x/week focus one body part.

3x sessions a week, try to seperate by 48 hours recovery.
 

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md3sign said:
And this is a program that has (and continues to) work for thousands of lifters, very effectively.
Only when poundages are relatively low.
 

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Warboss Alex said:
Only when poundages are relatively low.
And unless everyone here is 5'8" 230lbs or whatever you are (still want pics), they're gonna be sticking with relatively low poundages for quite some time.
 

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I like going heavy...

There would be no way I could do heavy squats and deads in the same routine...I'd be jello.
 

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I'm 6' if you don't mind. And I will not post pictures for reasons of my own however if you or any other guy on here is ever in my area (currently UK but will be moving to the US soon if all goes to plain), you're more than welcome to come work out with me or even just grab a McD's if you want to see what I look like.
 

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Warboss Alex said:
Only when poundages are relatively low.
Yeah, from looking at wba's lifts, even at his size, it would be very hard for the body to endure both exersices in the same period. I'm still either novice or intermediate for those lifts, so doing both per workout isn't a big deal to me.
 

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Come to Kentucky, you don't want to be a Vol or a Tarheel. Just remember though, we don't actually consider Louisville part of Ky.

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K 6" then I misread. That's even smaller then, though by no means small. You can always post pics of your body. I doubt we'll recognize you lol.

Espi said:
Makes no sense deadlifting and squatting in one workout...if you're able to do so, you need to increase the weight...I've been squatting two years, and it still takes me 3-4 days to fully recover...squats, IMO, are meant to be brutal...if they're not, increase the weight.
So long 5x5 ...

(again I doubt most people here, since it's not even a bb or pl forum are lifting heavy weights)
 

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