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squat problem:

my arms give out before my les do they hurt so much from being stretched back to hold/balance the bar is this normal or an inflexibility problem please help because it hurts + i want to squat
 

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I remember when I first started squatting, I would hold the bar with a pretty wide grip. Now my grip is a lot closer to protect my shoulders. I'm not an expert in this but you may have to experiment with how you are holding the bar.
 

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I've seen a lot of people not even grip the bar, just wrap their arms around it and it seems to help them with their flexibility problems.
 

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it prolly is my flexability does holding it with a wide grip do something bad or can i stabilise it however i want
 

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my arms give out before my les do they hurt so much from being stretched back to hold/balance the bar is this normal or an inflexibility problem please help because it hurts + i want to squat
Hmm, I used to feel that way, but then I started holding the bar with a narrower grip, i.e. 6 inches either side of my shoulder blades.

Also, when you unrack the bar, pinch your shoulder blades together to make the little 'trap shelf'. Your shoulders hold the bar, and you shouldn't need to hold the bar incredibly firmly, so it doesn't hurt my arms much. It's usually my shoulders that start complaining on a 20-rep squat :(

-shaun
 
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