I guess this applies to in school but mostly outside of school. Do you just get at the one girl you want? ("I wanna talk to you" seems a little too sudden) Or do you talk to both then somehow give your number to only one? (how do you manage that?)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
splitting up groups?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Well idk what other do but I get the entire group involved and make sure everybody is interseted, then when I end it I go for all numbers, if there are any I dont rly want I just pretend to enter them. Last night I gamed a 6 set with 3 guys, I got 2 numbers and was friends with the guys still, b/c I got them involved too, so i'd say go for everybodys number and be selective on which ones you keep.
or specifically talk to the ones you DONT want---go with me on this--- then as you begin to see the convo winding down look over at the one you want (that you've almost been rejecting) and say something along the lines of "hey i didnt really get to talk to you much..." if you gotta go, then get the digits. if not (preferably not) then escort her to a more private place of the party and continue some one on one game
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Do a search Dot. This question has been answered many times before.
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