Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Space vs. Sex

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"Having time apart is extremely healthy and keeps a freshness in their relationship. It encourages each person to maintain their own sense of identity while still being a couple, and it fosters independence and strength rather than neediness and clinginess."

more here: http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/lif...ing-relationship-is-space-20121105-28tle.html

I might add, it also builds attraction.

Thoughts, fellow DJ's???
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Your willingness to give a girl space is directly proportional to her respect towards you

This is sadly one of those things that most guys will never "get"
In English are you saying "the more willing you are to give you space, the more she can respect you"?
 

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In English are you saying "the more willing you are to give you space, the more she can respect you"?
oh, the irony...

"Space... the final frontier." - James T. Kirk
 

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This is sadly one of those things that most guys will never "get"
Yes, it helps to "have a life". Most guys are boring, and have zilch going on.

Space could also be translated as "not chasing" or "hanging back (doc love)" or "interested in other things".

She needs her freedom... It's the only way!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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