"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Space vs. Sex

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"Having time apart is extremely healthy and keeps a freshness in their relationship. It encourages each person to maintain their own sense of identity while still being a couple, and it fosters independence and strength rather than neediness and clinginess."

more here: http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/lif...ing-relationship-is-space-20121105-28tle.html

I might add, it also builds attraction.

Thoughts, fellow DJ's???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your willingness to give a girl space is directly proportional to her respect towards you

This is sadly one of those things that most guys will never "get"
In English are you saying "the more willing you are to give you space, the more she can respect you"?
 

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In English are you saying "the more willing you are to give you space, the more she can respect you"?
oh, the irony...

"Space... the final frontier." - James T. Kirk
 

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This is sadly one of those things that most guys will never "get"
Yes, it helps to "have a life". Most guys are boring, and have zilch going on.

Space could also be translated as "not chasing" or "hanging back (doc love)" or "interested in other things".

She needs her freedom... It's the only way!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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