"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Space vs. Sex

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"Having time apart is extremely healthy and keeps a freshness in their relationship. It encourages each person to maintain their own sense of identity while still being a couple, and it fosters independence and strength rather than neediness and clinginess."

more here: http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/lif...ing-relationship-is-space-20121105-28tle.html

I might add, it also builds attraction.

Thoughts, fellow DJ's???
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Your willingness to give a girl space is directly proportional to her respect towards you

This is sadly one of those things that most guys will never "get"
In English are you saying "the more willing you are to give you space, the more she can respect you"?
 

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In English are you saying "the more willing you are to give you space, the more she can respect you"?
oh, the irony...

"Space... the final frontier." - James T. Kirk
 

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This is sadly one of those things that most guys will never "get"
Yes, it helps to "have a life". Most guys are boring, and have zilch going on.

Space could also be translated as "not chasing" or "hanging back (doc love)" or "interested in other things".

She needs her freedom... It's the only way!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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