"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sounding Stupid

crossboss

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Do you know any signs of sounding stupid, in a non-obvious way, because sometimes I say stupid things. Other times I can sound really intelligent, what are warning signs of you going wrong.
I was also wondering of ways to understand subtile communication.
Thanks.

CrossBoss
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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theunflushables

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Stay confident no matter what stupid sh1t comes out of your mouth. If you play it right it will sound like you're being funny instead of stupid.
 

Bible_Belt

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Toastmaster's teaches to never say "ah, uh, um" or anything that is not a word when you are talking. I heard a CEO give a conference call once, and every other word was "um." He sounded like an idiot.

Other than basic speaking skills, you have to work on your think-it-don't-say-it filter. Some people don't have much of a filter, they just blurt out whatever they are thinking.
 

ViciousDADogg

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Difference between sounding stupid vs sounding smart is your own perception.


Unless someone tells you that you sound stupid there is absolutely no reason for you to think you sound stupid. Thus until that happens think you sound smart.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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