"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sounding Stupid

crossboss

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Do you know any signs of sounding stupid, in a non-obvious way, because sometimes I say stupid things. Other times I can sound really intelligent, what are warning signs of you going wrong.
I was also wondering of ways to understand subtile communication.
Thanks.

CrossBoss
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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theunflushables

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Stay confident no matter what stupid sh1t comes out of your mouth. If you play it right it will sound like you're being funny instead of stupid.
 

Bible_Belt

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Toastmaster's teaches to never say "ah, uh, um" or anything that is not a word when you are talking. I heard a CEO give a conference call once, and every other word was "um." He sounded like an idiot.

Other than basic speaking skills, you have to work on your think-it-don't-say-it filter. Some people don't have much of a filter, they just blurt out whatever they are thinking.
 

ViciousDADogg

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Difference between sounding stupid vs sounding smart is your own perception.


Unless someone tells you that you sound stupid there is absolutely no reason for you to think you sound stupid. Thus until that happens think you sound smart.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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