Your smartphone can be your greatest enemy when it comes to this stuff. Lying down on your bed during the midnight hours and looking at cute girls or instagram thots with bikinis and thongs…lol …won’t help your cause.
As a matter of fact, lying down on your bed chilling with your smartphone is a dangerous position to be in and have caused numerous relapses.
Instead if you have to temptation to do this, replace it with another activity that is more productive. Instead lie down on your bed while reading a novel, chill on your bed while sketching or you can play your guitar. etc. If you’re spiritual, read the scriptures and pray.
Never lie on your bed doing nothing but looking at your smartphone, your opening pandora’s box to your eventual relapse. I should know I’ve learned this lesson way too many times.
In my case looking at my smartphone is irrelevant, at my age I can't see it without glasses.
Even if I get whatsapped while laying in bed, it has to wait until the morning because I don't
keep a pair of glasses in my bedroom. For me porn was more a case of taking my laptop,
plugging a HDMI cable into it and watching it on a 65" TV. Good news is that is such a faff
that I need to consciously prepare in order to do it. Distracting myself with my new motorcycle
at the moment, bought a few add ons and will be spending some time in my shed with my
spanners in my hand.
On day 14 yesterday. ****ed a girl last night from OLD. She offered it to me on a plate...said she would come to mine. I did have a bad gut feeling about this, but thought I'd chance it.
She turned out to be very weird. She mentioned that she had been stalked. That the stalker told her "do you think I care if your solicitor has warned me off 3 time, that dose'nt deter people like me" I got really creepy vibes from her...she was asking questions i imagine stalker would ask like "do you live alone" what is the area like? and before she left...she asked me what would I do if I were in her position regarding the stalking.
1 week in, no porn, no fapping, no sex.
My knackers feel heavier than usual but that's about it.
I'm also day three of quitting tobacco cold turkey after a year long relapse.
To be honest my cravings to smoke are greater, but holding fast on that too.
It was well understood before "Enlightenment" times. It was generally understood that too much sex made you retarded, effeminate, physically weak and ritually impure. After all, men give their life essence away, this is why they feel relaxed, weaker and more emotional after orgasm. You give part of your essence to a woman, your woman is filled up with your essence each time, she absorbs what makes you. Your seed is like investment in stocks. Invest wisely with maximum return.
NNN does not make sense when you still have sex. The benefit is better when you don't masturbate, but doing a complete dopamine detox and reset for your brain comes only when you abstain from sex.
This whole NF thing originated from ofcourse Das Church. The same men who claimed to be celibate were raping young boys. And even tho they've been exposed, the general mindset is still imprinted upon society. Sex , mastrubation etc. is sometimg to be ashamed of.
Maybe it had a greater purpose because its was more challenging to prevent pregnancy back then.
I'm in, hopefully this will keep me accountable because I have a very bad porn addiction to the point where I can't even have sex since I'm so used to porn and can't even get it up with a girl, despite having no problem with that when I'm watching porn. I don't live alone and I'm gonna be buying a time release locking case that will only open when the timer hits zero so that I can put my electronics in them when I'm alone and only have access to them when I can't look at porn.
Sounds like a ED(erectile dysfunction). Fapping is WAY more comfortable in a way right? You are alone, you get to pick what woman . And on the other hand you kinda set the bar how sex should be(like in porn).
Some famous Chad recently talked about this topic. It's the pressure of feeling that you have to deliver , a woman who sits doggy full of expectations ect. In this case it's a great idea to stay away from pron for a while.
I have found myself more easily irritated and quick to anger than usual, but it's hard to know
if that's nicotine withdrawal or increased T bearing in mind that any increases are supposed
to peak at around the 7 day mark and nicotine withdrawal peaks at around the 3-4 day mark.
Honestly it could be either. I also had my first completely alcohol free day in years yesterday.
Recently have reduced my consumption from 8 - 10 pints a day to 1-2, yesterday I had none
and there is beer here I could have drank.
Still in it. It has been a tough week to be honest, but I can deal with it. Somehow I'm hornier than usuall after a week. But I'm also motivated to go out and talk to women. Unfortunately I'm swamped with work, but maybe I can get to it next week.
Interesting to hear a neuroscientists point of view. He was saying that if you fap to porn, you're training yourself, your mind, to get aroused to this stimuli. Therefore it might affect your performance when you get a real girl.