"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't have anything. I'm confident around people (not around extremely hott girls, but there aren't any in my vacinity), I'm somewhat funny, I can draw the attention of the whole classs. But that's just it, I think I'm everyone's acquitance. Whenever I try to lure someone to be a good friend, they got other friends. Whenever I invite people out, the plans always drop (happened 4 different times). I'm in all the nerd classes, but the nerds hate me because I'm confident. My normal classes, I'm not in with the popular kids and don't hang out with them enough that I'm a nobody. I seem to have fallen in between the cracks. That's why I haven't hung out with anyone since I broke up with my girlfriend back in December. :rolleyes: My class is 300, probably 130 of them guys. Maybe 40 of them considered popular in the whole class, and 20 of them were probably at my middle school where they didn't like me. It just kills me that I read the myspaces of these kids, and they're all hanging out at the beach. I'm, however, reading a DonJuan message board.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Then I never got a cellphone till last week. I don't have a car. I go to a private school, and public school kids around me freak me out. I can't wait till college when I can start a new life, eat properly, be able to go to a gym, and bang chicks. HS and living with my parents is too restricting.
 

WC2

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Don't sweat it man. High School is small beans. Once you get to college or into life, you're going find out people aren't so cliquish. You don't need a group. Get a few good friends and thats all you need. Make your own plans and be your own man.
 

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Welcome to my life. I'm your new best friend. hi. But sersly just go with it and it will fall into place.
 

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the nerds hate you because you're "confident"?

No. figure out the real reason
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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