"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Nobody

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I don't have anything. I'm confident around people (not around extremely hott girls, but there aren't any in my vacinity), I'm somewhat funny, I can draw the attention of the whole classs. But that's just it, I think I'm everyone's acquitance. Whenever I try to lure someone to be a good friend, they got other friends. Whenever I invite people out, the plans always drop (happened 4 different times). I'm in all the nerd classes, but the nerds hate me because I'm confident. My normal classes, I'm not in with the popular kids and don't hang out with them enough that I'm a nobody. I seem to have fallen in between the cracks. That's why I haven't hung out with anyone since I broke up with my girlfriend back in December. :rolleyes: My class is 300, probably 130 of them guys. Maybe 40 of them considered popular in the whole class, and 20 of them were probably at my middle school where they didn't like me. It just kills me that I read the myspaces of these kids, and they're all hanging out at the beach. I'm, however, reading a DonJuan message board.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nobody

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Then I never got a cellphone till last week. I don't have a car. I go to a private school, and public school kids around me freak me out. I can't wait till college when I can start a new life, eat properly, be able to go to a gym, and bang chicks. HS and living with my parents is too restricting.
 

WC2

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Don't sweat it man. High School is small beans. Once you get to college or into life, you're going find out people aren't so cliquish. You don't need a group. Get a few good friends and thats all you need. Make your own plans and be your own man.
 

BBX

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Welcome to my life. I'm your new best friend. hi. But sersly just go with it and it will fall into place.
 

Porky

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the nerds hate you because you're "confident"?

No. figure out the real reason
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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