"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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something different needed

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after discussion with many of you mature men forum posters, and discussion in the chat room... i have come to the conclusion that there needs to be a new sort of bootcamp here on the board.
not exactly the same kind as the dj bootcamp which a guy goes on 8-12 weeks where he experiences speaking to women in social settings up to the point that he is hitting on them at clubs and stuff like that. kinda seems like they all say the same lines in each of their field reports.

no, what we need is a completely different type. one that helps this younger generation, look inside themselves and straighten out their lives before they start trying to pursue all these women. some of these guys have no fathers, or brothers . some of them have ocd and other issues.

can we pull together as a community here, and put something together that these guys can have as a basic start , when it comes to look for inner growth?

we can also find some of the good threads and attach the links on previous discussions that would be helpful also?

what do you say homies?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm down like a flat tire!

I'll look for and list some suggested threads to get a foundation started.

I think this has been a long time coming.

Good job Kitty!
 

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Victory Unlimited...reporting for DUTY!


Sign me up, Pentagon Chief PENKITTEN. I'll make some time and contribute some things for the cause.

Peace...TODAY.
 

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Penkitten, let me know the subject you want me to shed light on and I'll write it! Make it a good one - a deep one!
 

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karma i have no idea how you were able to make the links the way you did and call them what you wanted to...
i would like to do that with the links i had
 
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Penkitten, How did karma do that soooooo fast - is he part of the NSA AT&T surveillance grid i.e. Google???
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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penkitten are you using the link button (globe with the chain link)?
 

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Man, you can't overstuff it with too many epic inspiring words! Guys are going to be asking "okay, what do I do now? Right now?"

Warboss is a fine step-by-step. I just took a look at the old bootcamp, and you should not just go to machine gun approaches right away. Really the first week should be working on trying to look good (gasp!) since that will help everything else so much. Get better clothes, work on your body language with a video camera, stuff like that.

I understand putting yourself out there, but so many folks in the PUA community are hailing from NYC, LA, and Florida. For the rest of us, doing 50 approaches is just not an option.

Here's more like what I'm thinking.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Penkitten, let me know the subject you want me to shed light on and I'll write it! Make it a good one - a deep one!
perhaps you could just write a little something explaining how you became a man who is happy and confident.
thats a good start i guess.

we just need to put something together to show this younger generation that you must be your own foundation before you go off to the mall to attempt to make small talk with 50 ladies in hopes of getting a phone number.
 

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penkitten are you using the link button (globe with the chain link)?
no reset, i didnt use that . i will try to change it in a little bit.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Great idea.

penkitten said:
no, what we need is a completely different type. one that helps this younger generation, look inside themselves and straighten out their lives before they start trying to pursue all these women. some of these guys have no fathers, or brothers . some of them have ocd and other issues.

can we pull together as a community here, and put something together that these guys can have as a basic start , when it comes to look for inner growth?


what do you say homies?

I think it is an excellent idea. Many here need more "life" skills than DJing skills. Getting women is the easy part. Dealing with the Pandora's Box of emotions of everyday life is the real challenge.



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romangod said:
I think it is an excellent idea. Many here need more "life" skills than DJing skills. Getting women is the easy part. Dealing with the Pandora's Box of emotions of everyday life is the real challenge.



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yes!! so if you want to write something or find a few of your favorite old threads, please add them to the link ok.
 

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yes!! so if you want to write something or find a few of your favorite old threads, please add them to the link ok.

Okay, here's a link that might help get some people started.

http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/knowyourself.html


This is my sister's web site and she is one of the coolest chicks I know. My brother-in-law is very lucky to be married to her for 25 years although she says she's very lucky to have him. Her premise is that there are essential life skills we need to know to have a happy and fullfilling life. She explores many areas on her site. It is definitely worth a look.


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Phyzzle said:
Man, you can't overstuff it with too many epic inspiring words! Guys are going to be asking "okay, what do I do now? Right now?"

Warboss is a fine step-by-step. I just took a look at the old bootcamp, and you should not just go to machine gun approaches right away. Really the first week should be working on trying to look good (gasp!) since that will help everything else so much. Get better clothes, work on your body language with a video camera, stuff like that.

I understand putting yourself out there, but so many folks in the PUA community are hailing from NYC, LA, and Florida. For the rest of us, doing 50 approaches is just not an option.

Here's more like what I'm thinking.

That is an awesome article you linked to , Phyzzle. Just read the whole thing. It's like 8 years old, but timeless material nonetheless. That stuff should be required reading.

And I agree about the approach thing. Living in a big metropolitan area and living in a suburban small town are apples and oranges. You're not going to have much success with a gameplan tailor-made for manhattan when you live in smallsville, new hampshire. But the basics apply no matter where you live.

I'd like to see a few more threads on dressing your best. I think this is an area that is often overlooked. Presenting yourself in sharp attire that works for you and constantly building that physique are invaluable assets.
 

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Colossus said:
I'd like to see a few more threads on dressing your best. I think this is an area that is often overlooked. Presenting yourself in sharp attire that works for you and constantly building that physique are invaluable assets.
got one in mind colossus that you can link here?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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