"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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after discussion with many of you mature men forum posters, and discussion in the chat room... i have come to the conclusion that there needs to be a new sort of bootcamp here on the board.
not exactly the same kind as the dj bootcamp which a guy goes on 8-12 weeks where he experiences speaking to women in social settings up to the point that he is hitting on them at clubs and stuff like that. kinda seems like they all say the same lines in each of their field reports.

no, what we need is a completely different type. one that helps this younger generation, look inside themselves and straighten out their lives before they start trying to pursue all these women. some of these guys have no fathers, or brothers . some of them have ocd and other issues.

can we pull together as a community here, and put something together that these guys can have as a basic start , when it comes to look for inner growth?

we can also find some of the good threads and attach the links on previous discussions that would be helpful also?

what do you say homies?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm down like a flat tire!

I'll look for and list some suggested threads to get a foundation started.

I think this has been a long time coming.

Good job Kitty!
 

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Victory Unlimited...reporting for DUTY!


Sign me up, Pentagon Chief PENKITTEN. I'll make some time and contribute some things for the cause.

Peace...TODAY.
 

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Penkitten, let me know the subject you want me to shed light on and I'll write it! Make it a good one - a deep one!
 

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karma i have no idea how you were able to make the links the way you did and call them what you wanted to...
i would like to do that with the links i had
 
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Penkitten, How did karma do that soooooo fast - is he part of the NSA AT&T surveillance grid i.e. Google???
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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penkitten are you using the link button (globe with the chain link)?
 

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Man, you can't overstuff it with too many epic inspiring words! Guys are going to be asking "okay, what do I do now? Right now?"

Warboss is a fine step-by-step. I just took a look at the old bootcamp, and you should not just go to machine gun approaches right away. Really the first week should be working on trying to look good (gasp!) since that will help everything else so much. Get better clothes, work on your body language with a video camera, stuff like that.

I understand putting yourself out there, but so many folks in the PUA community are hailing from NYC, LA, and Florida. For the rest of us, doing 50 approaches is just not an option.

Here's more like what I'm thinking.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Penkitten, let me know the subject you want me to shed light on and I'll write it! Make it a good one - a deep one!
perhaps you could just write a little something explaining how you became a man who is happy and confident.
thats a good start i guess.

we just need to put something together to show this younger generation that you must be your own foundation before you go off to the mall to attempt to make small talk with 50 ladies in hopes of getting a phone number.
 

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penkitten are you using the link button (globe with the chain link)?
no reset, i didnt use that . i will try to change it in a little bit.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Great idea.

penkitten said:
no, what we need is a completely different type. one that helps this younger generation, look inside themselves and straighten out their lives before they start trying to pursue all these women. some of these guys have no fathers, or brothers . some of them have ocd and other issues.

can we pull together as a community here, and put something together that these guys can have as a basic start , when it comes to look for inner growth?


what do you say homies?

I think it is an excellent idea. Many here need more "life" skills than DJing skills. Getting women is the easy part. Dealing with the Pandora's Box of emotions of everyday life is the real challenge.



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romangod said:
I think it is an excellent idea. Many here need more "life" skills than DJing skills. Getting women is the easy part. Dealing with the Pandora's Box of emotions of everyday life is the real challenge.



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yes!! so if you want to write something or find a few of your favorite old threads, please add them to the link ok.
 

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penkitten said:
yes!! so if you want to write something or find a few of your favorite old threads, please add them to the link ok.

Okay, here's a link that might help get some people started.

http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/knowyourself.html


This is my sister's web site and she is one of the coolest chicks I know. My brother-in-law is very lucky to be married to her for 25 years although she says she's very lucky to have him. Her premise is that there are essential life skills we need to know to have a happy and fullfilling life. She explores many areas on her site. It is definitely worth a look.


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Phyzzle said:
Man, you can't overstuff it with too many epic inspiring words! Guys are going to be asking "okay, what do I do now? Right now?"

Warboss is a fine step-by-step. I just took a look at the old bootcamp, and you should not just go to machine gun approaches right away. Really the first week should be working on trying to look good (gasp!) since that will help everything else so much. Get better clothes, work on your body language with a video camera, stuff like that.

I understand putting yourself out there, but so many folks in the PUA community are hailing from NYC, LA, and Florida. For the rest of us, doing 50 approaches is just not an option.

Here's more like what I'm thinking.

That is an awesome article you linked to , Phyzzle. Just read the whole thing. It's like 8 years old, but timeless material nonetheless. That stuff should be required reading.

And I agree about the approach thing. Living in a big metropolitan area and living in a suburban small town are apples and oranges. You're not going to have much success with a gameplan tailor-made for manhattan when you live in smallsville, new hampshire. But the basics apply no matter where you live.

I'd like to see a few more threads on dressing your best. I think this is an area that is often overlooked. Presenting yourself in sharp attire that works for you and constantly building that physique are invaluable assets.
 

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Colossus said:
I'd like to see a few more threads on dressing your best. I think this is an area that is often overlooked. Presenting yourself in sharp attire that works for you and constantly building that physique are invaluable assets.
got one in mind colossus that you can link here?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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