"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
We temp banned her (30 days) and she hasn't been back after her time-out expired.
Do you think she was representative of average women though? I don't think so at all. The reason so few women hang out among us beasts is that it is not in their nature to do so.
Do you think she was representative of average women though? I don't think so at all. The reason so few women hang out among us beasts is that it is not in their nature to do so.
Papa_smu
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Why the temp ban?
Who Dares Win
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Probably posting with a second nick.
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Why would you want a female with her opinions on a all male space?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Exactly... So you want a fish to tell you how to place your bait so you can catch it? Not going to happen. If that was the case, my 2 sisters would have help me get some of their sexy friends... That never happens.
backseatjuan
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Yeah because women do most of the shaming, name calling, psychological games. And mostly but lastly manipulation games within them. They can see this with out a doubt. While men give them exactly what they are looking for. Remember this....slut shaming didn’t came from men, it came from other women as intrasexual disqualification
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Good riddance
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I do agree with Julian, why the ban? I'd appreciate transparency on this topic.
I do know a few women who are red-pill, and they are usually extremely neurotic. They realize that their minds are beyond their control at times, and they hate it. I even have a female coworker who feels bad for anyone who has a daughter because she understands the chaos that women are, and she realizes her own nature.
No one can be free from the chaos of their own mind, and that includes men. It takes YEARS of practice to control your mind.
I do know a few women who are red-pill, and they are usually extremely neurotic. They realize that their minds are beyond their control at times, and they hate it. I even have a female coworker who feels bad for anyone who has a daughter because she understands the chaos that women are, and she realizes her own nature.
No one can be free from the chaos of their own mind, and that includes men. It takes YEARS of practice to control your mind.
Atom Smasher
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Absolutely not. The reasons are private and between the mods and the members only. It's nobody else's business.
People get themselves banned for repeatedly violating rules that they agreed to when they signed up.
@Julian and @Kotaix, clearly you both need a reminder of the rules that you agreed to. They are posted for your review at the top of most of the forums. If you disagree I advise you to find another forum that better suites your temperament. You're free to stay or go.
People get themselves banned for repeatedly violating rules that they agreed to when they signed up.
@Julian and @Kotaix, clearly you both need a reminder of the rules that you agreed to. They are posted for your review at the top of most of the forums. If you disagree I advise you to find another forum that better suites your temperament. You're free to stay or go.
Atom Smasher
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Was it because she refused to show her rack? ;'p