Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Probably posting with a second nick.We temp banned her (30 days) and she hasn't been back after her time-out expired.
Do you think she was representative of average women though? I don't think so at all. The reason so few women hang out among us beasts is that it is not in their nature to do so.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Exactly... So you want a fish to tell you how to place your bait so you can catch it? Not going to happen. If that was the case, my 2 sisters would have help me get some of their sexy friends... That never happens.Why would you want a female with her opinions on a all male space?
Yeah because women do most of the shaming, name calling, psychological games. And mostly but lastly manipulation games within them. They can see this with out a doubt. While men give them exactly what they are looking for. Remember this....slut shaming didn’t came from men, it came from other women as intrasexual disqualificationIt isn't unheard of for women to hate each other, and to prefer the company of men.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That’s a good thing, in some cases Mods have to delete posts and warn or ban members when they post inappropriate content before you can see it…I haven't seen any offensive behavior, I was just curious.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Was it because she refused to show her rack? ;'pAbsolutely not. The reasons are private and between the mods and the members only. It's nobody else's business.
People get themselves banned for repeatedly violating rules that they agreed to when they signed up.
@Julian and @Kotaix, clearly you both need a reminder of the rules that you agreed to. They are posted for your review at the top of most of the forums. If you disagree I advise you to find another forum that better suites your temperament. You're free to stay or go.