Ringleader41
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also if you're her last plate too
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Some signs you're the top plate a girl is spinning
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ringleader41
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guys she's banging
I agree with PairPlusRoyalFlush, but remember, for all the talk we have about NC, girls understand that stuff too. They invented NC I'm pretty sure. So when you first meet a girl and she suddenly starts texting all the time, you might think that is high interest when it's medium interest. She's gone NC with her #1 plate and is filling time with you. Likewise, later on, when she develops feelings, she will suddenly care enough to start playing games in order to control the relationship. Then she might contact you less but her interest level is actually higher. If you don't remember this, you might have a defeatist attitude and blow it. Always assume they like you until they tell you they will never go out with you.
Good signs:
1) They text a sexy photo of themselves.
2) They use key words like "excited" and "love" a lot.
3) They text a heart, or broken heart when you don't reply.
4) You get a 700 word text message in multiple parts.
5) The number of days per week they are texting you is increasing.
6) They initiate text conversations.
7) They freak out if you don't reply.
8) They text to invite you out for an overnight trip.
9) You can make plans weeks in advance and they show up on time.
10) They show up for a date even though they are sick.
11) They grab your hand and pull you along in the restaurant.
12) They have an orgasm.
13) They remember stories you told about other women and act jealous for months.
14) They say "What are we?"
15) They French kiss you indefinitely.
16) They call after a date, gushing with how much fun they had.
Bad signs:
1) They text "Umm..."
2) They never send long text messages.
3) They go more than 14 days without replying (then it's over).
4) They say "B-bye".
5) They don't even text a thank-you after a date.
(Yes part of it doesn't make sense but women don't make sense. The same stimulus does not always produce the same response. Talk to women who really like a guy and they often they admit that they won't text the guy first, only if he writes to them first. That usually only happens after high interest + sex has happened).
Good signs:
1) They text a sexy photo of themselves.
2) They use key words like "excited" and "love" a lot.
3) They text a heart, or broken heart when you don't reply.
4) You get a 700 word text message in multiple parts.
5) The number of days per week they are texting you is increasing.
6) They initiate text conversations.
7) They freak out if you don't reply.
8) They text to invite you out for an overnight trip.
9) You can make plans weeks in advance and they show up on time.
10) They show up for a date even though they are sick.
11) They grab your hand and pull you along in the restaurant.
12) They have an orgasm.
13) They remember stories you told about other women and act jealous for months.
14) They say "What are we?"
15) They French kiss you indefinitely.
16) They call after a date, gushing with how much fun they had.
Bad signs:
1) They text "Umm..."
2) They never send long text messages.
3) They go more than 14 days without replying (then it's over).
4) They say "B-bye".
5) They don't even text a thank-you after a date.
(Yes part of it doesn't make sense but women don't make sense. The same stimulus does not always produce the same response. Talk to women who really like a guy and they often they admit that they won't text the guy first, only if he writes to them first. That usually only happens after high interest + sex has happened).
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Ringleader41
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Wait that doesn't make any sense. You say they start playing games with you and not texting you a lot, but your good signs says they will text you a lot
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why would a man even consider being a plate a girl is spinning!! unless she's a fbuddy, that is not an option for a guy. put things in perspective a guy is never a plate. you're either being played- if you getting sex from the girl or being strung along- if you ain't getting sex