"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Some questions about Instagram game (noob)

ilyoTheHorrid

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  • How do you find a good number of girls in your area?
  • What openers do you usually use (in case she doesn't have stories or anything other than her looks that grabs your attention)?
  • Is there anything you do that brings traffic to your profile, like reels or specific hashtags?
  • My profile is only 3-4 months old but I got a few dates from there. I know that actual posts bring very little traction, any suggestions what does?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Genetic Error

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place search for popular location resturants or clubs. then follow that girl. then follow all of the girls who follow her as theyre going to be the people near here usually. 200 per day

when they follow back, like their pic, if they like back then DM them.

idk about openers tho im also **** at that
 

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Step 1: Get a bunch of matches on Tinder/Bumble

Step 2: Forget for a minute about taking off their pants as soon as possible and instead plan dates u would actually enjoy regardless of company

Step 3: Triple book your matches for the date. If none flakes, go out with the hottest one and bail on the other girls.

Rinse and repeat.
 

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Ig is for fanboys who get no play. I'm seeing a 21 yr old insta hottie that shows me her DM's and she has never given them the time of day. The thirst is real, and you will just get lost in the masses anyway. I approached her in Target, and she gives me the time of day.

I've never once complimented her on her looks, and even make it painfully frustrating for her that I don't. I often tell her she's a weird little beast who looks like this old cross-eyed guy we both happen to know about lol. She loves it.

Not what you asked about I know, but 86 the ig man, for real. Not worth it. Especially for a noob that has to ask about it. No offense.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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There are ways to get laid via the Instagram DMs but most men are better served by doing either real life approaching of strangers or getting a social circle through real life activities that is capable of introductions. Since building a social circle from essentially scratch often takes years before it is capable of arranging dates, approaching strangers eliminates the middle man and can allow for sex sooner than social circle stuff. I'd also like to point out that men over age 30-35 needing to build a social circle often encounter even greater hurdles in social circle game because by that age, established couples rule social circles and most established couples tend to only interact with other established couples.
 

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I've never once complimented her on her looks, and even make it painfully frustrating for her that I don't. I often tell her she's a weird little beast who looks like this old cross-eyed guy we both happen to know about lol. She loves it.
Good job on the pull but none of this is a sign of success until you fvck her, if you have then my bad but if not then all of this is a moot issue......
 

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Good job on the pull but none of this is a sign of success until you fvck her, if you have then my bad but if not then all of this is a moot issue......
Not to humble brag, but yes. She is very shy and very petite and very feminine, and I am rather masculine so I turn her on beyond her control. She likes to feel small and girly around me so I kill that sh!t. She wants to come over more, but no dice.

She would have paid zero attention to me if I tried to hit her up on ig. Real world for the win.
 

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Step 1: Get a bunch of matches on Tinder/Bumble

Step 2: Forget for a minute about taking off their pants as soon as possible and instead plan dates u would actually enjoy regardless of company

Step 3: Triple book your matches for the date. If none flakes, go out with the hottest one and bail on the other girls.

Rinse and repeat.
Amen
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Here's the thing about about SM 'game' in general: don't bother.

I've had a conversation this very week with two very good looking, personable women, and they showed their PM inboxes literally dozens of unsolicited messages even missed calls from complete strangers.
It's a low risk, low investment tactic. Unless they initiate conversation first, don't bother. You're just another fish in a very big pond.
As has already been suggested, go outside and talk to real people.
 

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Here's the thing about about SM 'game' in general: don't bother.

I've had a conversation this very week with two very good looking, personable women, and they showed their PM inboxes literally dozens of unsolicited messages even missed calls from complete strangers.
It's a low risk, low investment tactic. Unless they initiate conversation first, don't bother. You're just another fish in a very big pond.
As has already been suggested, go outside and talk to real people.
Agreed you need familiarity and cold opening on social media offers zero familiarity

She may humour you depending on her mood but most of my experiences with cold DM'ing have ended horrendously

You would be better off cold opening a load of random dudes on social media and trying to build social circles
 

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Agreed you need familiarity and cold opening on social media offers zero familiarity

She may humour you depending on her mood but most of my experiences with cold DM'ing have ended horrendously

You would be better off cold opening a load of random dudes on social media and trying to build social circles
Alternatively, chatboards/discussion groups can be very fruitful. I've had some success, building that familiarity.
 

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Here's the thing about about SM 'game' in general: don't bother.

I've had a conversation this very week with two very good looking, personable women, and they showed their PM inboxes literally dozens of unsolicited messages even missed calls from complete strangers.
It's a low risk, low investment tactic. Unless they initiate conversation first, don't bother. You're just another fish in a very big pond.
As has already been suggested, go outside and talk to real people.
I disagree. I don't do it as my main thing, but I have messaged randoms privately before with good success rate. Most of the guys doing it are dweebs. If you're attractive and show a good lifestyle on your IG/friends commenting/etc. And she digs your vibe, you WILL get a reply.
 

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You would be better off cold opening a load of random dudes on social media and trying to build social circles
Funny you say this. I find it 6000% easier to cold approach women than men for casual convos. Men are awkward as ****. Women are used to it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Black Widow Void

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I see that you’re new.
Welcome aboard.
I honestly don’t know a lot about that particular social platform.
However, I do know a little more about social etiquette.
Unlike the member below, not all of us approach new members with unnecessary swagger.

Step 1: Delete Instagram

Step 2: Go Outside

Step 3: Talk to real women
 
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