I was out on a date recently with a cute, smart, seemingly good girl. At the end of the date she starts to talk about relationships. I tell her 3 years was the longest one i have ever been in. She says a year for her, then says her relationships just seem to end. She then added that her last bf broke it off "because he said I depress him". Not sure what she's telling me, but man that was too much info.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Some of the things chicks say....
- Thread starter Disco
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That's the thing, it was a good date. Actually I thought it was very good. She mentioned that at the end and I was thinking that maybe she thought I wasn't going to ask her out again for some reason. I just thought "he said I depress him" thing is odd. Me being the sarcastic person I am just smiled and said "isn't that what relationships are all about?"
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Disco,
the only things I am concerned about is how she treated/dumped her exes. And her opinions of them. I don't care how many she went out with, don't care how many she banged (as long as she's clean). If you give her the interrogation like the following: 1. How many boyfriends 2. How many sex partners 3. Do you have lots of exes as friends 4. etc etc.. She will see through that and see you as insecure.
She is not insecure, she is just telling you that she's never had a real long relationship... WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? Nothing..
Just enjoy it and see where it goes.
the only things I am concerned about is how she treated/dumped her exes. And her opinions of them. I don't care how many she went out with, don't care how many she banged (as long as she's clean). If you give her the interrogation like the following: 1. How many boyfriends 2. How many sex partners 3. Do you have lots of exes as friends 4. etc etc.. She will see through that and see you as insecure.
She is not insecure, she is just telling you that she's never had a real long relationship... WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? Nothing..
Just enjoy it and see where it goes.
I know, I didn't even discuss it...just blew on through to the next topic. If there's one thing that I know now it's not to display any kind of insecurity if you have any. Just push on through like it doesn't phase you and don't mention it.
PuertoRican_Lover
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Whats all this insecurity talk bull**** I hear on every thread?? You want to know how big of a hor a girl is and this makes you insecure?? Stop it!! Men are not insecure, only women get insecure. Men don't seek security - only women seek security!! If you 'feel' insecure you are an 'effeminate"! No man I know has displayed any insecurities - if they question something it is for good reason - they want to know something to formualte an opinion and to seek truth!! Nothing insecure about that. The word and concept of 'insecurity' is a feminine topic and should be kept out of men's conversations!!