I was out on a date recently with a cute, smart, seemingly good girl. At the end of the date she starts to talk about relationships. I tell her 3 years was the longest one i have ever been in. She says a year for her, then says her relationships just seem to end. She then added that her last bf broke it off "because he said I depress him". Not sure what she's telling me, but man that was too much info.
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That's the thing, it was a good date. Actually I thought it was very good. She mentioned that at the end and I was thinking that maybe she thought I wasn't going to ask her out again for some reason. I just thought "he said I depress him" thing is odd. Me being the sarcastic person I am just smiled and said "isn't that what relationships are all about?"
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Disco,
the only things I am concerned about is how she treated/dumped her exes. And her opinions of them. I don't care how many she went out with, don't care how many she banged (as long as she's clean). If you give her the interrogation like the following: 1. How many boyfriends 2. How many sex partners 3. Do you have lots of exes as friends 4. etc etc.. She will see through that and see you as insecure.
She is not insecure, she is just telling you that she's never had a real long relationship... WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? Nothing..
Just enjoy it and see where it goes.
the only things I am concerned about is how she treated/dumped her exes. And her opinions of them. I don't care how many she went out with, don't care how many she banged (as long as she's clean). If you give her the interrogation like the following: 1. How many boyfriends 2. How many sex partners 3. Do you have lots of exes as friends 4. etc etc.. She will see through that and see you as insecure.
She is not insecure, she is just telling you that she's never had a real long relationship... WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? Nothing..
Just enjoy it and see where it goes.
I know, I didn't even discuss it...just blew on through to the next topic. If there's one thing that I know now it's not to display any kind of insecurity if you have any. Just push on through like it doesn't phase you and don't mention it.
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Whats all this insecurity talk bull**** I hear on every thread?? You want to know how big of a hor a girl is and this makes you insecure?? Stop it!! Men are not insecure, only women get insecure. Men don't seek security - only women seek security!! If you 'feel' insecure you are an 'effeminate"! No man I know has displayed any insecurities - if they question something it is for good reason - they want to know something to formualte an opinion and to seek truth!! Nothing insecure about that. The word and concept of 'insecurity' is a feminine topic and should be kept out of men's conversations!!