backseatjuan
Banned
You better watch this, it is the don juan science.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Social networking: the science of six degrees of separation
- Thread starter backseatjuan
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
So why dont some of us that use FB try an experiment?
Find someone you want to take out on a date/activity/meet by looking through your friends, that have friends you do not know. Stick to commenting/liking a post and direct messaging, dont send a friend request first. (you can always message a person if you are not friends) but might not see their full page. Post your experiences
Find someone you want to take out on a date/activity/meet by looking through your friends, that have friends you do not know. Stick to commenting/liking a post and direct messaging, dont send a friend request first. (you can always message a person if you are not friends) but might not see their full page. Post your experiences
backseatjuan
Banned
You have to just meet people. You don't know who they know, but chances are that just through six acquaintances everybody knows everybody. This is incredibly useful.